I had my first and hopefully only bout with hemmorhoids after the birth of my son (my 2nd child) so I feel your pain!!
The only thing that I can suggest is dibucaine cream (not lidocaine) and loading it up all around the bumps. Then I would fold a witch hazel pad around each bump- sorry for being so graphic!!
It just took time for me. I was seen by my dr bc they were still there at 6wks pp. I hear they can use rubberbands to remove if they're really bad.