Re: 4 yo boy & rude/sassy attitude
Perhaps he needs a little more "fear of Mom". :-) It can be really tough when they start to test their vocal boundaries. My son goes through short periods (sometimes a day, sometimes a few days), where he tests me. It's my least favorite part of being a mom...having to lay down the law. But, he needs to know that it is MY house and he will treat me with respect or suffer the consequences. I have too many kiddos to have insubbordination in the ranks!
Finding the appropriate consequence for your child is the most important. Every kid is different. Then telling the child BEFORE the offense (at the start of each day)what the consequences for his bad behavior will be. It will let him know what's expected of him and will help you keep your cool in the moment. Then sometimes when he starts to act out, you may only need to REMIND him of the punishment that is in store if he continues with his attitude. Sorry this got long and hope it helps. Good luck momma and hang in there! :-)