Re: Gender Disappointment
We both wanted a second boy but I suspected we were having a girl. At the ultrasound, my hunch was confirmed and DH looked like someone kicked him in the family jewels. It took him some time to get his head around it. It helped him to talk about exactly what he was worried about (in this case, having a teenage girl) as well as all the new things to look forward to (having a "Daddy's girl", scaring her first boyfriend, giving her away at her wedding). By the time she was born, he would have been disappointed had she been a boy. So I think that addressing the concerns rather than burying or ignoring them is helpful. It's not wrong to have these feelings of disappointment, especially if you've pictured a certain outcome for a long time.