Red head here too and I didn't have issues with pain, pumping sucked but nursing was fine. I did get relly red in the beginning, not painful but the nurses were commenting on it and suggested a nipple shield, I didn't use it, things evened off after a few days. I love the mini goal idea. And agree about the nipple toughening being b.s. my mom even told me that, I tried it and it was rediculous.
Jenna - wife to Harrison since 2007, and proud mama to miss Matilda Quinn(Sept-06-11) and mr Felix Byron (May-25-13)