Re: SBish OBFs--yay? Nay?
They shrink and become stiff because the fibers seriously snuggle together, hence the amazing absorbancy.
Yes, they can be softened with Ecover.
They are not trim. They are a nighttime workhorse diaper. We use them for naps and nighttime only. They are too bulky to fit well under clothes and in my opinion are too much in the crotch area for my toddler to run around without the serging rubbing his legs.
I love them for night. We won't use anything else.