Re: Toddler Tantrums - need help :(
sounds like you need to start some love and logic.
also maybe a warning that it's time to go home...instead of just swooping in and changing shoes in the middle of play.
Give her choices, like pp said. "hey sweetie would you like to put your shoes on or do you want mommy?" "do you want the left one on first or the right?" Would you like to wear your coat with the zipper in front or with the zipper in the back? Should we put the left arm in first or the right?
it may be really hard at first but once she gets the hang of this is time to go home and "I get to make the decisions" then it will go smoothly.
DD loves to pick how she puts her stuff on.