Re: feeling hopeless about my 4 year old
this sounds exactly EXACTLY like my 3.5 yo. He has never in his entire life pooped on the potty. He will sit for an hour or more, and then get up and immediately poop in his pants. if he's naked, he poops on the floor or holds it.
Bribery never worked for us. I went so far as to buy the toy he wanted (we went to the store and he chose it) and had it sitting in the bathroom as incentive, telling him that if he pooped JUST ONCE he could have it. We ended up returning it to the store 2 weeks later.
I really wish I had an answer for you. this life of being consumed by potty training SUCKS.
Elaine, SAHM to E (11/07), J (8/09), A (2/11), G (11/12), P (7/14)