My mom is a smoker, but she is not allowed to smoke when she stays with us. She can -does- chew nicotine gum or suck a lozenge if she needs to, but I wont deal with the stench of cigarettes in my house or on my kids. She tried to sneak one outside once, I sent her home and that was that.
You're just going to have to draw a line with the family member about this. Be direct, be firm, but you don't have to be mean, hopefully.
Kylee, married to my inimitable DH.
Mama to my seraphic sweetheart (3.2010),
my bodacious babe (11.2011),
and impatiently awaiting someone new (8.2013).
Last edited by sisu; 02-21-2013 at 07:38 AM.