My mom is a smoker, but she is not allowed to smoke when she stays with us. She can -does- chew nicotine gum or suck a lozenge if she needs to, but I wont deal with the stench of cigarettes in my house or on my kids. She tried to sneak one outside once, I sent her home and that was that.
You're just going to have to draw a line with the family member about this. Be direct, be firm, but you don't have to be mean, hopefully.
Last edited by sisu; 02-21-2013 at 08:38 AM.