Re: Toddler Tantrums - need help :(
Even though I want to pick up my (27mo) ds and get home ASAP I realized that the key to a peaceful transition is to not rush. I spend 5-10 minutes hanging out, talking to his daycare lady, looking at his art projects, etc. He loves to wave to his friends through the window (all the kids run to the window and wave when someone leaves) so I always remind him that we get to do that. Once we get in the car I let him play 'drive' for a few minutes before we hit the road (we have a 15 min drive home).
I wouldn't force the shoe/coat issue either, just bring a blanket if it's cold.