03-02-2013, 08:05 AM
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: MB, Canada
Re: DH wants to convert. I dont understand...
Originally Posted by Hillargh
Mama, he didn't plan this and marry you with this in secrecy. Don't feel deceived. He isn't doing it to hurt you. He obviously feels a strong calling to this faith.
If he was pressuring you to convert, that wouldn't be okay to me. But if he's wanting this for himself, feeling called to it, then I wouldn't stand in his way. I would support him through things.
Definitely a conversation about the children and their upbringing would have to happen. I don't see anything wrong with giving the kids a choice - giving them the information (in so much that Mommy believes this, Daddy believes this, there's nothing wrong with either they're just different) and then letting them choose whether/where they want to attend church/synagogue(?) with you guys. Maybe they would want to alternate weeks or something?
I just think there's lots of ways that this could be worked out. It's definitely not a deal breaker, or wouldn't be for my marriage.
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