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Old 03-23-2013, 09:21 PM   #30
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A 16 month old is still a baby. Walking talking baby. I baby babies. I don't even like that term. It seems degrading. Coddle? While I don't react often, when there is genuine hurt or fear I go quickly. When they lay it on thick I tell them they don't have to convince me, and I help them calm down.

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Originally Posted by addicteddad
Maybe accept that he may just be sensitive, not "the biggest sissy ever", and work with that. I mean how tough does a 16 month old need to be?
I was thinking this. There was a lot if "tough guy" between the lines TO ME in that OP. perhaps having military dad home has created a different dynamic?

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Originally Posted by GirlFriday13th
I'm also uncomfortable with the use of "sissy".
But fwiw my younger child is a screamer. And I don't rush to his aid for minor injuries and I've always been very "brush it off, you're fine" with both kids. They just have inherently different temperaments.
This is us too.

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Originally Posted by danner

So if I feel put off and confused by the term sissy, does that make me nitpicky? Just curious, because I do feel a bit insulted by it, and I couldn't put my finger on why at first.

So I got the definition:

Noun
derogatory. A person regarded as effeminate or cowardly.

Adjective
derogatory. Feeble and cowardly.

I think these definitions is why I am uncomfortable with the word. It's derogatory and being used about a baby. If this isn't how the OP meant it, then it was a poor choice of word.

Anyway, if the question is, when do you stop responding to every single bump, I'd say at about 6 months. I follow my kids lead though, and if they are genuinely scared or sad or hurt, I react with love and care regardless of gender or to how they might turn out later on.
Just another yes. We do our men and boys such a disservice by requiring such toughness and using such emotionally provocative words.
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