Re: Chronically Unhappy 5 Year Old....
I have the 4yr old version of your dd. It's hell.
I'm generally a very firm parent but when that wasn't working I tried a more gentle approach with options but that isn't working either. The days that work best for us are when I'm alone with her and can run the house like a boot camp. No exceptions, no letting up, no choices if you're grumpy etc.. Usually after an entire morning of screaming she'll behave after lunch.
It's hard to do that with other children around though.
You have my sympathy that's for sure!