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I don't think you are neglectful at all. The only reason I could see taking your child in occasionally is so they are not afraid if you have to take them in for an illness, otherwise what is the point. I take my kids to well child checks but all the do at first is weigh and measure them, listen to their heart and mess w/ their joints to make sure they move properly. I have a friend whose DD was diagnosed w/ a heart murmor at a well baby check, but otherwise they seem pointless. I take my kids because our ins is great and we don't have any co-pay so there really is no excuse for me not too. But I think everyone has to do what they feel is right and if you feel there is no need for the appts then don't bother.