Re: Are we hurting her by holding her too much?
Hold that baby mama! I held/carried DD constantly for the first six months of her life (until she went to daycare). If she was awake and half the time she was sleeping she was tied onto me. Everyone gave me "feedback", not all positive but I knew it was the right thing for her and for me.
Now she is the most independent 11 month old in our parenting group. She will be held by anyone, isn't afraid of strangers, and shows no signs of seperation anxiety yet. I give 100% credit to carrying her. I believe she's attached to us and confident that we'll be there for her.
Also, as PP mentioned carrying counts as tummy time.