Re: husband thinks cosleeping will mess with baby???
My kids have never slept with us, but my 3 year old dd is so clingy it drives me crazy. I don't think sleeping with you or not causes them to be like that. It is just certain kids' personalities. None of my other kids were ever clingy to the point she is. I can't even leave her with my sister who she sees several times a week since she was born, (she even nursed her once when I had to go to the dentist or something!!) without her freaking out and crying for a long time. It won't cause her emotional harm to sleep with you. Do what's best for your daughter and family.
Jeanie, wife of Paul, mommy of Aurora-19 and married (5/23/94), Oliver-17 (12/27/95), Simon-15 (9/11/98), Savannah-13 (4/9/00), Harrison-10 (2/26/03), Genevieve-8 (2/24/05), and Sebastian-5 (4/24/08), Precious Baby Girl (lost 8/10), expecting a new arrival 6/2014