Re: what to do when child destroys your house?
Mama, it sounds like there are some underlying issues. Perhaps anger/aggression? Is he in counseling? I also agree that you need to mke him responsible for his actions.. whether it be paying for the damage or helping to repair it, he has to realize there are consequences to his poor choices. Without knowing more details, its hard for me to respond, but with what you wrote, I can say that I sense some serious red flags (I have a bachelor's in psychology and the first-hand experience of being a troubled teen).
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