Re: WWYD: ebay dipe problem
I would probably send one more message and ask her to respond within 24 hours to let you know what is going on. Tell her nicely that you feel like you have no choice but to start following steps to get your money back if you don't hear from her.
You sound like me--I never would want to stir up trouble, either. But I do think it has been a ridiculously long time! Good luck resolving this!