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Old 07-25-2010, 05:22 PM   #1
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tips for toddler undereating and pickiness?

I'm not sure if I should post this as "in the kitchen" or parenting", but I'd love any tips from others for how to deal with toddler undereating and pickiness. DD was 8lbs 6oz at birth and quickly lost a tonne of weight and has struggled ever since to gain weight. She usually hovers between the 1st and 3rd percentile. We found out at about 8 months that she has severe allergies to dairy, soy and egg- although I do think her allergy to egg is lessening. So, many of the traditional childhood food gainig foods are out for her. But, she has ALWAYS eaten so much more food than her peers- even despite her slow weight gain. She could truly eat all day! She has always loved almost all fruits and veggies, all her meats, everything... until this summer. She is now 2 years 9 months old and, especially for the last few weeks says "I don't like that" to EVERYTHING! More often than not now, I find myself saying "If you eat this many bites of this, then you can have a treat", something I'd sworn that I'd never say to my child. I am truly of the opinion that treats are to be enjoyed every once in awhile as a treat in and of itself and that healthy foods can and should be enjoyed with no condition of an unhealthy food as the reward.... BUT, I also need my daughter to eat! I do NOT want to have a role in any unhealthy attitudes towards eating and food! I also know that she truly won't starve to death but, when your almost 3 year old weighs about 22 lbs, it's not a good thing when they decide to stop eating.
What do other parents do? Do you have a so-many-bite rule? What if your child doesn't want to try a new food? What if they say they don't like a food you know they do? I would just love to hear what others say! Thanks!
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Old 07-25-2010, 05:50 PM   #2
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I have an 18 month old...and what I do with her is put the food in front of her, sit down with her, and we eat together. I don't force her to eat, I just encourage her to try this or that. If she doesnt' like it or won't eat...then she can wait till the next meal. I don't think children will starve themselves. So, sometimes she won't eat anything...but at the next meal...she gobbles everything down. I limit snacks in between meals to just yogurt, cheese, or fruit...nothing too filling.

COmpared to my friend who was over just a minute ago having dinner with me...I am much more laid back. She runs after her child forcing food in her mouth and I just turn away and chuckle. But, I can understand with you why you are worried since she is in the low percentile. I think kids just go through stages.
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Old 07-25-2010, 07:02 PM   #3
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I have an 18 month old...and what I do with her is put the food in front of her, sit down with her, and we eat together. I don't force her to eat, I just encourage her to try this or that. If she doesnt' like it or won't eat...then she can wait till the next meal. I don't think children will starve themselves. So, sometimes she won't eat anything...but at the next meal...she gobbles everything down. I limit snacks in between meals to just yogurt, cheese, or fruit...nothing too filling.

COmpared to my friend who was over just a minute ago having dinner with me...I am much more laid back. She runs after her child forcing food in her mouth and I just turn away and chuckle. But, I can understand with you why you are worried since she is in the low percentile. I think kids just go through stages.
And on the days she eats nothing or almost nothing do you allow ANY snack, no matter how small, before the next meal? Even overnight?
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Yeah, I should have mentioned that snacks araren't big at the moment wither- and have always only been fruits or veggies... And I totally agree with the eating WITH your child thing.. that's always been a big deal for me, even now with DS here too...
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My daughter has always been tiny. She hit the 5% line for weight for the first time on Friday. Our ped has told us not to restrict calories or fat in anyway. We do offer fruit for snacks but usually after a higher calorie/fat food has been eaten, usually cheese in our case. I'd up the calorie and fat value of your snacks and meals and worry about getting your child gaining weight first and then worry about lowering the calories and fat for long term later.
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My daughter has always been tiny. She hit the 5% line for weight for the first time on Friday. Our ped has told us not to restrict calories or fat in anyway. We do offer fruit for snacks but usually after a higher calorie/fat food has been eaten, usually cheese in our case. I'd up the calorie and fat value of your snacks and meals and worry about getting your child gaining weight first and then worry about lowering the calories and fat for long term later.
Oh trust me- I've NEVER tried to restrict calories or fat with her! Cheese is out because of her allergies- cheese is by far the easiest high fat food out there otherwise. My challenge is just finding high fat/calorie foods out there that are safe for her!
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Oh trust me- I've NEVER tried to restrict calories or fat with her! Cheese is out because of her allergies- cheese is by far the easiest high fat food out there otherwise. My challenge is just finding high fat/calorie foods out there that are safe for her!
So sorry, I didn't mean to imply that *you* were restricting calories or fat. I thought you had posted that snacks were only fruit and veggies, that was my mistake. You have my upmost sympathy. It is hard enough to try and pack the extra calories and fat in when you aren't dealing with food allergies.

Can you daughter have nut butters or sunflower or soy butter? Those are nice and calorie and fat rich and are pretty versatile. In addition to spreading on bread, I spread them on fruit and add to smoothies. I also stir olive oil or butter in anything I can, since you can't use butter, maybe another mild oil? My daughter is starting to enjoy dipping, so I've been using that as another way to get some fat and calories in her while still giving her the fruit and veggies that she loves.

ETA: I had my screen open for a while, so I see that you just posted about nuts and seeds.

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Re: tips for toddler undereating and pickiness?

What kind of "milk" does she drink? Almond milk does not have many calories,but could add scoops of hypoallergenic powder formula to it to fatten it up?

DS is a picky eater, and due to his heart condition, we need to keep calories in him. I spent a few days letting him eat when he wanted,then I started to plan meals around those times. SO the kids eat dinner at 5, instead of 6 or 7 with DH and I. He is not a big breakfast eater, but will eat a ton around lunch time. (11ish).

For dinner, I give him a choice of the sides that I make. He cannot stand meatloaf for example, but will eat peas and potatoes. I do not force the food, but I put a little of everything on his plate, he can eat or not eat and have seconds if he wants. If he wants a snack after dinner that is fine, as I do not keep junk food around the house. He usually wants fruit. You can also get coconut yogurt, but I am not sure where yet (friend told me about it.)

Also, try the book deceptively delicious for ways to get veggies/fruits into regular foods.

Finally, some kids are just small. As long as she is developing and following her own growth pattern (even below the line) she is more than likely fine.
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What kind of "milk" does she drink? Almond milk does not have many calories,but could add scoops of hypoallergenic powder formula to it to fatten it up?

DS is a picky eater, and due to his heart condition, we need to keep calories in him. I spent a few days letting him eat when he wanted,then I started to plan meals around those times. SO the kids eat dinner at 5, instead of 6 or 7 with DH and I. He is not a big breakfast eater, but will eat a ton around lunch time. (11ish).

For dinner, I give him a choice of the sides that I make. He cannot stand meatloaf for example, but will eat peas and potatoes. I do not force the food, but I put a little of everything on his plate, he can eat or not eat and have seconds if he wants. If he wants a snack after dinner that is fine, as I do not keep junk food around the house. He usually wants fruit. You can also get coconut yogurt, but I am not sure where yet (friend told me about it.)

Also, try the book deceptively delicious for ways to get veggies/fruits into regular foods.

Finally, some kids are just small. As long as she is developing and following her own growth pattern (even below the line) she is more than likely fine.
So, sadly, her curve has dropped yet again. She grew taller but she has actually lost weight agaoin- she never ever stops moving so I can't say as I'm surprised. The ped. just wants to make sure she gets her fat up to feed her brain but overall isn't super upset or anything. I like your idea of using the hypoallergenic formula to 'fatten' things up. It is truly horrific tasting and she never took it even as a baby but nursed for a long time instead. But, I could 'hide' it!
Coconut yogourt is not available in Canada. I have no idea why not. BTW, it's available at Whole Foods in the US and I know that because whenver we know of anyone going to the US we ask them to bring us back a whole bunch because DD truly LOVES it! It is GREAT! I did try and make some homemade coconut yogourt but since we also can't get the dairy/soy free yogourt starter in Canada (again, no idea why not!), I just had to use a probiotic powder and I must say, it turned out kind of 'interestingly'... not exactly yummy.
I also love deceptively delicious... I should go through it again and include some of the things in my next meal plan! Thanks!
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Re: tips for toddler undereating and pickiness?

Yes, I always have a morning snack (cheese & fruit) and an afternoon snack (PB on banana w/ raisins). Healthy snacks help to fill in the gaps. I also would recommend trying to get off the Almond Milk. We drink raw milk in our family and it doesn't bother my lactose intolerant belly at all. Many people are able to drink raw milk who can't handle dairy. Do some research on it if you're interested. Also, things like Kefir are very tasty to little ones...add some maple syrup and fruit to it and he will eat it up. Kefir is also very tolerant on lactose intolerant bellies and filled with probiotics. You can find it in the natural food section next to the milk.
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