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Old 03-29-2011, 05:29 PM   #1
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Question Car seat laws? What is your opinion.

I am looking for everyones honest opinion on Car Seat Laws.

I personally do not believe I should be told how I need to raise my children or how to keep them safe. I do not feel that putting my baby into a car seat while they scream bc of being restrained, or bc they feel alone, or etc. is a good thing nor do I believe that a driver can concentrate on the road or driving with a baby crying in the backseat. They say just pull over and tend to the baby and then get back on the road, if that were the case, Id never be able to drive bc mine screams bloody murder in his car seat. He hates it and always has. So I guess women with children that do not like car seat should be aloud to drive.

So anyone else want to give their 2 . Yes I know this could get to a heated debate I just want everyones honest opinion and if I am the only one that feels this way.

BTW : How many of you remember wearing a seat belt as a child or having someone you know die due to lack of a car seat.

I remember a specific accident I was in where my mom was wearing a seat belt and got injured by the seat belt and was told had she not been wearing it she most likely would not have had any injuries at all.
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Old 03-29-2011, 05:39 PM   #2
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I think car seats are necessary - same with seat belts...I don't mind it being a law.

I know when I was a child a good friend's mom was driving home some kids (car-pool) and one child was killed in the car accident - I don't think that child had been buckled in - it was not HER child - I don't think any of the children were buckled in - I believe the law was still kind of "iffy" on backseat belt use.
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Well coming from someone whose child screamed bloody murder from the trip home from the hospital all the way until about 18 months and knowing what I do about the morbidity of children improperly restrained, I am all for stricter carseat laws. And I had to take him almost 20 minutes each way to daycare every day. I did what any reasonable mother would do when faced with either their child's discomfort or the child's safety and well being, I ignored him. I don't remember ever wearing a seatbelt but then again, we didn't have a car and did the sardines in a can thing the few times we rode in a car (kids sitting on top of kids sitting on top of adults while more kids sitting on the floor of the car) and buses/taxis didn't have seatbelts either.

The way I see it is this: if for some reason my child died in a car accident and suffered internal decapitation because I didn't want "the man" telling me what to do in regards to keeping him safe, I would never be able to live with myself and would probably commit suicide out of shame and guilt.
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Well coming from someone whose child screamed bloody murder from the trip home from the hospital all the way until about 18 months and knowing what I do about the morbidity of children improperly restrained, I am all for stricter carseat laws. And I had to take him almost 20 minutes each way to daycare every day. I did what any reasonable mother would do when faced with either their child's discomfort or the child's safety and well being, I ignored him. I don't remember ever wearing a seatbelt but then again, we didn't have a car and did the sardines in a can thing the few times we rode in a car (kids sitting on top of kids sitting on top of adults while more kids sitting on the floor of the car) and buses/taxis didn't have seatbelts either.

The way I see it is this: if for some reason my child died in a car accident and suffered internal decapitation because I didn't want "the man" telling me what to do in regards to keeping him safe, I would never be able to live with myself and would probably commit suicide out of shame and guilt.
Here s my question on just ignoring them ... do you not think that cuases stress on both the mother and the child and tells the child I really dont care that you are crying. I never ignore my child when he is crying I think it sends the wrong message to them.
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Here s my question on just ignoring them ... do you not think that cuases stress on both the mother and the child and tells the child I really dont care that you are crying. I never ignore my child when he is crying I think it sends the wrong message to them.
If it's a choice between causing the mom and child stress or the baby dying, I'll pick stress every time.
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Here s my question on just ignoring them ... do you not think that cuases stress on both the mother and the child and tells the child I really dont care that you are crying. I never ignore my child when he is crying I think it sends the wrong message to them.
I have had lots of screamers and I never once thought about not buckling them in. I would try to stay home so we didn't have to go in the car ,but if we had to go they would ride buckled. I am very concerned about my kids needs and always tend to them when they cry,BUT safety comes first when we travel. I do think a screaming baby causes stress on the baby and mother but it cause less stress on the mother than a dead baby because she wouldn't buckle her baby up. Seatbelts save lives that is all there is to it!
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Here s my question on just ignoring them ... do you not think that cuases stress on both the mother and the child and tells the child I really dont care that you are crying. I never ignore my child when he is crying I think it sends the wrong message to them.
Although I don't agree with getting rid of child car seat laws, I do "get" what you're saying from a kinda libertarian point of view. And I kind of agree as far as the principle goes.

But I personally don't believe that "ignoring" a screaming or stress-ed out child in their car seat is going to cause any long-term damage to said child. Yes, definitely the kid and mom will be stressed in the short term. But if the kid really has THAT much of an aversion to car seats, it's usually one of those quirky-neurotic yet developentally normal kid phases and it usually passes.

And if it doesn't pass like other stages do, then it becomes either a discipline issue that you can deal with at home, or a "we need outside professoinal help" kind of issue because your kids has got either anger issues or a genuine irrational phobia about car seats.

But usually, I think it's just a passing phase. I've known several babies who HATED the car seat....One of them is my own daugther, but her screaming hatred of the car seat only lasted a few weeks. I've never seen any evidence that it damages the child in any way to be forced to sit in a carseat while they're still young. (This is also why we are a semi-CIO family, at times, so take my POV with however big a grain of salt you think it merits.)
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Here s my question on just ignoring them ... do you not think that cuases stress on both the mother and the child and tells the child I really dont care that you are crying. I never ignore my child when he is crying I think it sends the wrong message to them.
In the instance of carseat/driving I don't think it does at all. You can choose to talk to him but that is only going to distract you. There were very few times my DD cried in the carseat, usually when hungry, all I did was get home as quick as possible and at red lights only commented I know I am hurrying.
Yes it can stress you out but you gotta do what you gotta do. You could try a different carseat I have seen posts on the car seat part of the forum about that helping, angles different.
I am totally against being told what to do parenting wise, however carseat laws don't bother me. I see being not properly restrained as a direct threat to the child's life. We drive fast in cars that crunch up horribly in crashes with airbags all cases of disaster for any child that is not properly restrained.
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