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Old 11-16-2011, 10:02 AM   #1
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Circ'ing a 4 month old - pros/cons?

Disclaimer - please, no anti-circ rhetoric. We have made an educated decision for our family, to circumcise our sons based on religious beliefs. I know not everyone agrees with it, and that is fine. And I open to ALL opinions, but I am not open to having someone tell me that I am mutilating my child, or anything along those lines. Thank you for respecting my disclaimer .

DS3 was not circ'd at birth. Long story short, we delivered all our children at the same hospital, and they had changed their policies right before DS3 was born. We were not allowed to be with him during the circ, and we simply weren't comfortable with that. So, we chose not to have the circ done at the hospital.

The original plan was to have it done shortly after birth, either by our pediatrician or a urologist. Unfortunately, it never happened... DS3 has GERD and we've spent the past 3.5 months trying to get that under control. The circ issue has taken a backseat. But now DH is really pushing to have it done, and I'm worried about it. Our other two boys were circ'd a few days after birth. DS3 is almost 4 months old, and I'm just concerned that we've waited too long. I'm worried it will hurt more, and have a longer healing time.

Has anyone circ'd a baby this age, or older? Are there any drawbacks (besides the obvious "no circ" reasons)?
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Old 11-16-2011, 10:07 AM   #2
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I'd say a drawback would be his age. I'd wait until he is like 1 year old. I don't think anesthesia is that safe for a 4 month old. Obviously, it's used in emergency situations, but it's not ideal. Usually, from what I've heard from friends, is that the youngest doctors want to do it post-neonatal period, is 9 months. And they recommend waiting until 12 months. Both anesthesia and pain management medications are safer with age.
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I'd say a drawback would be his age. I'd wait until he is like 1 year old. I don't think anesthesia is that safe for a 4 month old. Obviously, it's used in emergency situations, but it's not ideal. Usually, from what I've heard from friends, is that the youngest doctors want to do it post-neonatal period, is 9 months. And they recommend waiting until 12 months. Both anesthesia and pain management medications are safer with age.
That's what I was thinking, too. The urologist said he will use a local anesthetic, until 12 months. I'm wondering if we should see a plastic surgeon too.

Honestly, at this point I'd rather just not do it at all. I know why we decided to circ, but the idea of doing it this late makes me want to cry . DH is adamently opposed to leaving him intact, though.

So many issues, LOL.
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Old 11-16-2011, 10:17 AM   #4
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That's what I was thinking, too. The urologist said he will use a local anesthetic, until 12 months. I'm wondering if we should see a plastic surgeon too.

Honestly, at this point I'd rather just not do it at all. I know why we decided to circ, but the idea of doing it this late makes me want to cry . DH is adamently opposed to leaving him intact, though.

So many issues, LOL.
Since you already waited, why not wait until DS is 1 or 2 when it's easier to tell what the finished result is? Or after potty training when the after surgery pain would be less.
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That's what I was thinking, too. The urologist said he will use a local anesthetic, until 12 months. I'm wondering if we should see a plastic surgeon too.

Honestly, at this point I'd rather just not do it at all. I know why we decided to circ, but the idea of doing it this late makes me want to cry . DH is adamently opposed to leaving him intact, though.

So many issues, LOL.
Yes, I agree, a drawback could be his age.

I know how you feel, this can be so tough.

I have one circ'd son and one intact son. If you would like to read my experience, please click on my thread in my siggy.
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Yes, I agree, a drawback could be his age.

I know how you feel, this can be so tough.

I have one circ'd son and one intact son. If you would like to read my experience, please click on my thread in my siggy.
Thank you for sharing your story!
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Thank you for reading it.
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Yes, I agree, a drawback could be his age.

I know how you feel, this can be so tough.

I have one circ'd son and one intact son. If you would like to read my experience, please click on my thread in my siggy.
I checked out your thread and was going to comment there but it says it is closed. How did your husband come around to even talking about the foreskin restoration? I would love to chat with you if that is ok.
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I checked out your thread and was going to comment there but it says it is closed. How did your husband come around to even talking about the foreskin restoration? I would love to chat with you if that is ok.
Sure, I love sharing this info. He's a very good man and the idea of hurting me just kills him. He hasn't started restoring yet but we are looking into the different methods. Many of them are safe, painless and can be done at home. This site has some wonderful information- http://www.restoringforeskin.org/

My thread should be back open in a few days. We just wanted to give it a chance to cool down because it got heated.

I don't want to get this thread off track so feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss it further.

ETA: foreskin restoration should NOT hurt.
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Sure, I love sharing this info. He's a very good man and the idea of hurting me just kills him. He hasn't started restoring yet but we are looking into the different methods. Many of them are safe, painless and can be done at home. This site has some wonderful information- http://www.restoringforeskin.org/

My thread should be back open in a few days. We just wanted to give it a chance to cool down because it got heated.

I don't want to get this thread off track so feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss it further.
My husband has used the manual stretching method, socket method, and TLC Tugger. All work great, but the TLC is by far the easiest. He did it for me and him <3 Less pain = More sex ; )
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