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Old 04-17-2012, 11:51 AM   #1
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We're pretty non-traditional, but it works for us.

I'd say we are a pretty non traditional family, I've never met anyone with a family quite like ours. Unfortunately that means I also haven't ever met anyone who really "gets" us. My partner and I live with my grandmother and great aunt. My grandma had mild dementia which hadn't progressed much until a head injury in May 2010 which she never really recovered from. My great aunt is developmentally disabled and characteristics of an autistic spectrum disorder and can't take care of herself, so that meant someone else had to be there with both of them.
I have a daughter (adopted from foster care) from a previous relationship who is 25 now. She has PDD, a mild developmental disability, and major issues related to abuse as a child. She ran away and got married, and is now pg and living out of state...we are trying to get her home but she is high functioning enough to legally be allowed to do whatever she wants. That is a whole other story though!
My younger sister lives next door to me with my nephew (7) and niece (4 weeks) My nephew has had many challenges and has been diagnosed with Aspergers. He's a great kid, but he's also a handful! When my nephew was little my sister and I talked about it and she moved next door to me because she can't do it alone, and it was and is in the kids' best interest if she doesn't have to. The way she put it was "aunt, mom, same difference" and that's how I feel as well.
Obviously I'm not their Mother, and my nephew sees that most families don't work like ours but that their aunt takes care of them just like their Mom. We are pretty non-traditional in most ways, but I think that's the main thing that sets us apart from a lot of families. I tend to ramble when I start talking, especially about my babies. Just wondering if maybe there is anyone else out there in a similar family situation.
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Old 04-17-2012, 11:35 PM   #2
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while i am not in that situation myself. i think your an amazing woman for taking all that on.
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while i am not in that situation myself. i think your an amazing woman for taking all that on.
I agree with this.

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Old 04-22-2012, 04:56 PM   #4
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We are not the same, but in some ways similar. My fiance and I were not together when our son was born, and when he was 1, I moved in with my best friend so that my son would have more adults around and I wouldn't lose my mind. She is his "tia" (auntie), but she really is like a second parent in a lot of ways. At the same time that we moved in, my son's father and I got back together and now 2 years later we're expecting #2. We live all together in intentional community with my friends' partner. When they have kids, we will be their "tia" and 'tio" and plan to be extremely involved in their raising as well. My friends' parents treat my son like their grandchild, and I may stay home to take care of her kids when she goes back to work in the future.

I know it's not the same, but parents come in lots of forms in our family.
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Wow OP it sounds like you have built an amazing "village" for yourself
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Before I read the comment above, I also thought "it takes a village". If only more people had supportive people like you in their lives! You sound like you have a big heart and make it all work!
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Re: We're pretty non-traditional, but it works for us.

Awww! That is so sweet of you! I love to see people like this that actually care, and show it!
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while i am not in that situation myself. i think your an amazing woman for taking all that on.
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Wow OP it sounds like you have built an amazing "village" for yourself
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Awww! That is so sweet of you! I love to see people like this that actually care, and show it!
I couldn't have said it better.
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Thanks I've always thought it takes a village and that's how we were raised, as my Mom put it sometimes being a Mom has nothing to do with giving birth..and these kiddos just happen to have more than just the Mom they were born to. We wouldn't have it any other way!
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