HOw to wean a resistant baby

[2+2macht4]

I am done.

I am sick of not being able to sleep because ds will only sleep with a boob in his mouth.

My milk is nearly gone, he just goes back and forth and now wants to nurse all day everyday, and gets mad and bites and hits when he does not get milk.

BUt when I refuse he just keeps pulling at me, hitting and screaming. At night he will scream for hours if I do not lay half on by back and let him have a boob in his mouth.

I am so beyond done. I do not know what to do anymore.

To be honest I do not even want to breastfeed or cosleep with this next baby, everything everyone says is a myth is true for us.

Today he keeps screaming, hitting, pulling at me and when I let him nurse he keeps biting me till I bleed.

[MarieSeeking]

I know it's easier said than done but he needs manners both nursing and not nursing. The first time my daughter hit or bit me while nursing, she didn't continue and was pissed.

How old? I'd just not nurse anymore at night. I'd transition him to a crib or playpen if you don't want to cosleep. If he screams, I'd pick him up, hold him, rock him, then put him down. If he hits or kicks, he's put down. It's going to be hell at first but he will learn. And you aren't letting him CIO, if you are concerned about that, you will be there. Id also wear a high cut top with a sports bra so there's no chance of giving up and whipping out your boob.

Hugs to you.

[2+2macht4]

He is 17 months. I have tried night weaning him and putting him ain a crib he screams for hours, when he finally falls asleep it starts again less then an hour later when he wakes up. He does not just cry and stop.

He gets more upset when come in to comfort him

[knodceo]

At 22 months I weaned my first for those reasons. I put bandages on my Nipples and told her it was broken and only worked on babies. She was so desperate to be a big kid that it worked. When my 2nd came along I swore I'd do it differently...but I haven't. We are 2 weeks away from 1 year. I imagine I will nurse just as long. The one thing I can tell you is he's less interested in it all day every day like she was...he's got to watch his big sister .

Good luck and know you aren't alone.

[MarieSeeking]

I'd still stop nursing him. My daughter went through a period when she started screaming and throwing fits if I didn't nurse her so I just stopped.

She eventually learned.

I would offer water in a sippy especially since he's screaming because it may make his mouth feel better.

It's hard but he's screaming because he's protesting the lack of nursing. (fwiw I wouldn't say that about a child under a year)

I'd try for a few nights in a row. You have to be consistent. Can a friend stay the night with you and be the one to check on him?

[ELeigh]

You poor thing! I agree, he needs a little coaching on what not to do while nursing. Good luck!

[mrosehughes]

After about a year is when I got pretty strict with DS about his manners, because I just couldn't stand nursing when he pinched or bit or whatever. I'd just be super firm and if he does anything rude end the session, then cut one session at a time to wean (starting with night). DS is still nursing, but I'm pretty firm with twice a day, period, at this point and am trying to distract the before-bed session.

ETA: I also yelled (from pain) once or twice and that seemed to let DS know he'd hurt me and he stopped, but that is his personality.

[2+2macht4]

DS is not nursing consistantly. Mostly at nap or bed time, otherwise he just comes up to me randomly. And any time he wakes up at night he wants to nurse, but it is random.

He used to be such a good baby, but him down and he would sleep, nursed at 1 am and 5 am. Then I brought him into bed and have spent half my day in bed because he will not sleep alone now, or loosing sleep because he is waking all night long and wanting to nurse.

I feel like I lost control. There are times I love to cuddle, but I cannot handle being in bed all nap times, or going to bed at 7 pm each nights. I have no me time, no time with dh.

[palsmama]

Originally Posted by Serenajean1 DS is not nursing consistantly. Mostly at nap or bed time, otherwise he just comes up to me randomly. And any time he wakes up at night he wants to nurse, but it is random. He used to be such a good baby, but him down and he would sleep, nursed at 1 am and 5 am. Then I brought him into bed and have spent half my day in bed because he will not sleep alone now, or loosing sleep because he is waking all night long and wanting to nurse. I feel like I lost control. There are times I love to cuddle, but I cannot handle being in bed all nap times, or going to bed at 7 pm each nights. I have no me time, no time with dh.

I feel like I went through this with my DS. It was a growth spurt. He was hungry. I had to get him water and a snack. Seriously. Toddlers go through growth spurts and they are fierce. If its out of the norm and just starting I bet it is something like a growth spurt, teething or development. It didn't last. Hope it's over fast for you. I'm still nursing my 27 month old and am 16 weeks preggo. I feel your pain. He is a boob monster!

[emkeegan]

Originally Posted by Serenajean1 DS is not nursing consistantly. Mostly at nap or bed time, otherwise he just comes up to me randomly. And any time he wakes up at night he wants to nurse, but it is random. He used to be such a good baby, but him down and he would sleep, nursed at 1 am and 5 am. Then I brought him into bed and have spent half my day in bed because he will not sleep alone now, or loosing sleep because he is waking all night long and wanting to nurse. I feel like I lost control. There are times I love to cuddle, but I cannot handle being in bed all nap times, or going to bed at 7 pm each nights. I have no me time, no time with dh.

I feel your pain!! My DS went through a phase like that. I don't know if it will help you, but your LO will grow out of it!!

He is old enough now for you to talk to him & he'll understand: "when you bite mommy, it hurts me." "If you continue, boobies go away for now" "It makes me feel sad and frustrated when you bite me" etc. my DS is 20 months & a few months ago I used some of these same tactics & it's really worked - he does nurse to sleep, but it takes 10 minutes & I can leave him sleeping in bed on his own.

Also, he will sleep longer and harder (increasing your chances of being able to go have some "me" time) if he's exhausted - so get him running around outside.

Could DH tried putting LO to sleep?

Sounds like you just need to get out of the house on your own - get some space & perspective & some 'me' time. You will feel refreshed & have a better idea of what you need to do in your situation.