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Old 06-07-2012, 07:42 PM   #1
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Atheist parents?

Anyone else trying to raise their children in an Atheist household? My husband and I both come from religious families, but it just isn't part of our beliefs and lives anymore. We decided to raise our kids this way, but I'm still kind of clueless about how to handle those tough situations that inevitably arise (bullying, "saving", whathaveyou) Anyone else in the same boat?
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Old 06-07-2012, 08:29 PM   #2
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dh and i are atheist. we dont really talk about it a ton. ds1 knows what we believe and he also knows about other religions. i really dont like it when other parents push their beliefs as truth on their kids, i just feel like it's brainwashing so i dont do it either.

we homeschool anyway but we have never had an issue really. everyone that i know knows that i am an atheist and i have never felt judged, only accepted. i think the only problem really is getting nagged by x's family about not celebrating xmas. i know a lot of atheists do but we choose not to.
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We're atheists and just try to handle things with reason and compassion, no matter the situation.
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Old 06-07-2012, 08:43 PM   #5
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Kind of. I'm technically a pantheist, but as far as most people (who don't understand the difference and hear "i don't believer in a self aware deity" and stop listening) are concerned, they might as well be the same thing.

My plan is actually not to raise the boys to my beliefs. (Though I've slowly converted DH :O!) I was raised Catholic from day 1, and then was discouraged from seeking my own beliefs. I don't think that's fair - everyone should have their own level of faith. So my plan is to tech the boys every religion (and learn more myself at the same time! I love learning about religions.) and let them decide what feels right. If they want to check out a church, fine. We've already taken them to multiple Jewish shabat (sabbath) meals.

I would rather, instead of prepping them with a thick skin against bullies, prep them with confidence in what they belief against them.

Personally, after Catholic school, I ran less into bullying over religion, and more people constantly trying to challenge and prove me wrong. It made me constantly consider every angle before I settled on a belief.
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Kind of. I'm technically a pantheist, but as far as most people (who don't understand the difference and hear "i don't believer in a self aware deity" and stop listening) are concerned, they might as well be the same thing.

My plan is actually not to raise the boys to my beliefs. (Though I've slowly converted DH :O!) I was raised Catholic from day 1, and then was discouraged from seeking my own beliefs. I don't think that's fair - everyone should have their own level of faith. So my plan is to tech the boys every religion (and learn more myself at the same time! I love learning about religions.) and let them decide what feels right. If they want to check out a church, fine. We've already taken them to multiple Jewish shabat (sabbath) meals.

I would rather, instead of prepping them with a thick skin against bullies, prep them with confidence in what they belief against them.Personally, after Catholic school, I ran less into bullying over religion, and more people constantly trying to challenge and prove me wrong. It made me constantly consider every angle before I settled on a belief.
I agree with this. We are also not atheist. I don't think it really matters what your beliefs are some one will take exception to them.

When my husband mentioned to someone we don't celebrate the holidays he was told they were going to call DCFS on us to have our children taken away. They were serious not joking.
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Kind of. I'm technically a pantheist, but as far as most people (who don't understand the difference and hear "i don't believer in a self aware deity" and stop listening) are concerned, they might as well be the same thing.

My plan is actually not to raise the boys to my beliefs. (Though I've slowly converted DH :O!) I was raised Catholic from day 1, and then was discouraged from seeking my own beliefs. I don't think that's fair - everyone should have their own level of faith. So my plan is to tech the boys every religion (and learn more myself at the same time! I love learning about religions.) and let them decide what feels right. If they want to check out a church, fine. We've already taken them to multiple Jewish shabat (sabbath) meals.

I would rather, instead of prepping them with a thick skin against bullies, prep them with confidence in what they belief against them.

Personally, after Catholic school, I ran less into bullying over religion, and more people constantly trying to challenge and prove me wrong. It made me constantly consider every angle before I settled on a belief.
I say I am Christian but I have a outlook similar to yours on teaching anything that my kids want to learn about. I juts like learning about religions and people, and other things I don't know about in general like sewing, someday learning to knit/crochet......
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Re: Atheist parents?

I'm not an atheist, but probably "worse" in the eyes of certain types of Christians: I'm Muslim.

Having faced a lot of the stuff you described with regard to bullying, etc., I must say it's probably true that your kid(s) will be harassed. However, having emerged as a confident, competent adult with friends of all stripes, I'd say that they'll still be OK in the end.
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Re: Atheist parents?

When DS1 was younger it rarely came up. There was one time a kid at school asked him if he believed in God and my son asked "Which one?" because at that point the only "gods" he had heard about were the Greek ones. Now that he is older if asked he just tells people, kids and adults, that he believes in science and doesn't get into a discussion about it, which is hard to do where we live right now because religion is so intertwined with life in India.
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Old 06-11-2012, 01:32 PM   #10
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Re: Atheist parents?

Growing up atheist on the East Coast wasn't too out there. No one really seemed to care what religion you were, or weren't. Recently moving to the Mid West and starting a family has been a HUGE change. It seems everyone here is religious and looks down at you if you aren't affiliated with some God. We have found it had to make adult friends here because of it and I can't imagine what the kids are like. We all have to be ourselves though. I just want to give my kids the option to believe what they want.
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