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Old 07-12-2012, 01:44 PM   #1
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So we talked about seperating and divorcing. My husband has had a physical affair and i just recently found out about an emotional affair. Might have turn physical had i not found out, I dont know.....

Any way, how have you dealt with this? Did you decide to split? My husband doesnt want to talk about anything that concerns us. When i bring anything up that bothers me he says im nagging. Ihave told him i want this marriage. I want to stay together but we HAVE to talk about this! If not we will divorce. Im not living this way. His response"At least if we divorce I wont have to hear you talk about talking" Seriously???? So im confused.....Im a SAHMwith no income and no family and a husband who i dont think really loves me. I honestlt feel he wants a divorce but doesnt want to be the one to ask for it. To be honest, Im starting to feel as I want one too. Just to be done....

What would you do?....
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Old 07-12-2012, 01:48 PM   #2
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Leave. For a marriage to work, both parties need to be on board. He sounds like he's checked out. No sense in living your life always trying to get his attention.
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Old 07-12-2012, 03:07 PM   #3
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Re: Affairs (Physical and emotional)

Also, please don't judge! I was one who was never getting a divorce and my husband felt the same way. We always said that if things were to get bad we'd fix them. He has obviously changed his heart... I want him be part of our marriage but he doesn't want to. I can only do so much for us on my own.

I know I'm not the only wife and mother that has gone through this.....
How do you cope?
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Old 07-12-2012, 03:19 PM   #4
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Leave. For a marriage to work, both parties need to be on board. He sounds like he's checked out. No sense in living your life always trying to get his attention.
I agree. He doesn't sounds like he really cares one way or another, and that doesn't make for a good marriage either.
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I'd say try talking to him but he's so bloody disrespectful to you.

Honestly, you can't make him want to do anything. I'm someone who is all for no divorce either. But at the end of the day if one party wants out, you can't control it.
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So we talked about seperating and divorcing. My husband has had a physical affair and i just recently found out about an emotional affair. Might have turn physical had i not found out, I dont know.....

Any way, how have you dealt with this? Did you decide to split? My husband doesnt want to talk about anything that concerns us. When i bring anything up that bothers me he says im nagging. Ihave told him i want this marriage. I want to stay together but we HAVE to talk about this! If not we will divorce. Im not living this way. His response"At least if we divorce I wont have to hear you talk about talking" Seriously???? So im confused.....Im a SAHMwith no income and no family and a husband who i dont think really loves me. I honestlt feel he wants a divorce but doesnt want to be the one to ask for it. To be honest, Im starting to feel as I want one too. Just to be done....

What would you do?....
Honest? Doesn't sound like he is committed to the marriage or to you
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Honest? Doesn't sound like he is committed to the marriage or to you
Agree
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1) this is a really old thread. Has OP updated us? Where are you OP?

2) I think it's funny that you quoted and agree with yourself. ;-)
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1) this is a really old thread. Has OP updated us? Where are you OP?

2) I think it's funny that you quoted and agree with yourself. ;-)
Cause I still agree!! Hahaha
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Honest? Doesn't sound like he is committed to the marriage or to you
I agree. Time to get an income.
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