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Old 06-14-2006, 09:27 PM   #1
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Boys and hair length, what do you do?

There's a small debate going on between DH and myself about letting our boys choose to wear their hair long. He says that since the girls get to wear theirs how they want to, the boys should be able to as well. I have a hard time with this, probably because of the conservative way I grew up. Boys just didn't have long scraggly hair in the environment my parents kept us in, and I personally like a neat cut now (granted I've dated my small share of long haired guys, but that was back in my early 20's and dating the bass player of a wannabe punk/metal band). My oldest DSS likes his hair short, thank goodness, but my two middle boys (12 and 9) want to grow their hair out. I can't stand the way it grows out above their ears, like their going to take flight or something. On top of that (and I love the kid, but I'm being painfully honest) my 12 yo DSS has a HUGE head and it's a bit flat in the back, so longish hair just kind of makes his head look even bigger, kwim??? I can't come out and say "So and So, your head is HUMONGOUS and you wouldn't look right with the Shaggy hair cut like all the other little boys at school" that would just break his heart. But what do I do?? Do you let your boys choose how they wear their hair?? (ok and please no flaming, just being honest)
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Old 06-14-2006, 09:41 PM   #2
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DS would look fantastic with long hair, he has a lot of body and waves to it and I would love a shoulder length for him, he's not into the longer hair though. When it starts growing out he asks to go get it cut. I let my boys decide what to do with their hair.
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Old 06-14-2006, 09:50 PM   #3
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Re: Boys and hair length, what do you do?

They're at an age where they need a little room in making little decisions on how to cut they're hair. Don't get me wrong, I HATE long hair on guys and that was the "in" thing when I was in high school...but you have to let them learn and grow
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Old 06-14-2006, 10:09 PM   #4
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I may be in the minority, but I don't cut my kids hair unless they ask me to. When ds was tiny I used to cut his hair, and he would scream and cry and vomit. It was unbearable. You would have thought we were pulling his hair out not just trimming it. It never occured to me that it actually hurt him. Now that we know he has SPD I know that it actually causes him physical pain to have his hair cut. So his hair is now all the way down his back and absolutely gorgeous. When and if he asks for a haircut we will get it done. If I even suggest it he very adamently says no. With ds2 we won't cut his hair until he asks us to, though we may do just a tiny bit of evening out. I think it is their hair and they can decide how to wear it. My only rule is that if they want long hair it has to be taken care of. At your boys age they can do that themselves. I dont' believe in making decisions of this nature about another persons body, even if they are my kids.

And of course here are some pics of ds. Just cause I love to show him off.

http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/iris01...21.jpg&.src=ph With his hair pulled back

http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/iris01...e2.jpg&.src=ph Hanging out in the baby's bumbo

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Re: Boys and hair length, what do you do?

I like Kye's hair long. We decided to cut it when I got tired of the little girl comments. He did look a little girlish. We also cut it when we noticed his scalp was very dry and we treated that. My MIL has taken him for cuts twice but I make sure he wants to. I would love him with long hair.
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Your DS has beautiful hair! Do you ever get the little girl comments?
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They're at an age where they need a little room in making little decisions on how to cut they're hair. Don't get me wrong, I HATE long hair on guys and that was the "in" thing when I was in high school...but you have to let them learn and grow
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Re: Boys and hair length, what do you do?

yeah, i'm totally not a fan of long hair on guys either. i will say that i think that longish (not really like 80s hair band long - more like 60s shaggy) is very in with the teenage crowds i see at the moment. i'd say that if i chose not to fit that battle with an older child, my caveat would be that they need to keep it at least looking decent - getting a trim to get rid of scraggle, etc. now i'm not sure about a younger child who's aversion might be to getting hair cut rather than short hair per se....
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Old 06-15-2006, 09:18 AM   #9
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I have always kept my sons hair nice and short, just how I like it. He got his first haircut at 1 year old and it hasn't been longer than a few inches since (he's now 11 1/2). Over the winter he decided he wanted to grow his hair out kinda like a skater. I laughed inside because the poor boy diodn't realize that he had such thick wavy hair. I told him sure, I could use a break in the hair cutting costs (seriously every 6 weeks) and let him have at it. By week 9 or 10 he had had it. His hair looked to poofy and there was nothing he could do with it. He has now decided short hair is right for him. A tthat age they need to feel like they can make decisions no matter how minor it is. Hair can be cut and it will grow back so just keep and open mind and let him make the choice.
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Old 06-15-2006, 10:04 AM   #10
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Re: Boys and hair length, what do you do?

Our boys have worn it both ways. Long and short I mean. I have a BIG issue with scraggly. DH is wearing his long (to the shoulder blades) because I LOVE it. It's straight black and lustrous. (He is Native American and this is cultural in a sense.)
My boys like to wear it long but it is always well kep, just like the girls.
Both DH and the boys know I like it long and try to please me but all three get fed up with the heat and wak it off now and then. I let them know i don't mind. I realy don't. I just happen to like it long as well.
Our daughters wear theirs to their waist. I do as well unless I donate it. We have all done this at times.

So I think it is a matter of weather or not it will be well kep and not the length its self.
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