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Old 10-05-2012, 10:33 AM   #1
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WWYD... overweight friend and new furniture...

We have a cabin up North. My husband goes, even when I don't.

Last summer, he had his friends visit for the weekend, and one friend We'll call Bob, is extremely obese. He sat in our patio chairs and broke every one he sat in. (it was a really nice sturdy set...very expensive)

This year, we bought a new set, expensive, but, not as expensive, or the same quality.... (we also bought new bar stools)

Bob going up this weekend too, for three days, and he's going to break the new set. (and the bar stools) I'm kind of annoyed that my husband invited him up there, as we just got this stuff in June, and it's not as well made as the last set.


He also broke a lazy boy chair, but that didn't bother me because it was older and not a chair I was attached to. We didn't replace it yet, but nobody will sit in it because it just grinds instead of rocking.

My other concern is, to get up to the cabin, there are two wooden steps... the steps need to be replaced in the next year or so. There is a cinder block holding the steps up in the middle, but I don't think the steps are very safe for someone of his size. It's not a far fall, but it will hurt, and he could be injured.

I guess I'm just stuck with waiting to see what happens, and I can't even begin to think of a way to say "Uh... not on this chair, howbout this older chair?"
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Re: WWYD... overweight friend and new furniture...

That sucks.
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Old 10-05-2012, 10:41 AM   #3
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Re: WWYD... overweight friend and new furniture...

Man... that's a tough spot to be in. Wish I had some amazing solution for you
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Re: WWYD... overweight friend and new furniture...

Wait, he broke your chairs but didn't offer to pay for them? I don't care how he broke them, whether he was too big or wehther is drove a 4-wheeler into them an smashed them, if he broke the chairs he should pay to replace them. If my kid jumps on the couch and busts the springs, I offer to replace it, this is no different.
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Wait, he broke your chairs but didn't offer to pay for them? I don't care how he broke them, whether he was too big or wehther is drove a 4-wheeler into them an smashed them, if he broke the chairs he should pay to replace them. If my kid jumps on the couch and busts the springs, I offer to replace it, this is no different.
Exactly what I was thinking!

Sorry OP- sounds like your stuck between a rock and a hard place(
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Wait, he broke your chairs but didn't offer to pay for them? I don't care how he broke them, whether he was too big or wehther is drove a 4-wheeler into them an smashed them, if he broke the chairs he should pay to replace them. If my kid jumps on the couch and busts the springs, I offer to replace it, this is no different.
This! That's ridiculous to break that many chairs and not offer help in replacing them! I'm the type person, I would say something...in a nice way, but would certainly get out that I was upset and expected help with new ones.
Tell your love he needs to take charger on that once you won't be going.
If my child, or probably any family member I took with me somewhere, broke someone else's...anything, I would def offer to replace!
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Re: WWYD... overweight friend and new furniture...

That's sad. And a sucky position to be in. I agree with the post below..... and because of that I also agree with the PPer who mentioned uninviting him. I think that's the best option, because if he doesn't respect your property enough to sit on the deck/bring his own chair/at the least replace your old ones, then why does he deserve the benefit of camping with you?
But that's easier said than done. So, instead, I would probably get a specific sturdy chair for himfor this trip, and make sure to not invite him in the future.

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That's an awkward situation to be in and I don't blame you for being bothered.

How did he react when he broke them? Embarrassed? Did he laugh? Does he have a thick skin?

I ask because depending on that you could play off it. For example, if he thought it as hilarious, you could buy a sturdy chair and jokingly call it "The Bob Chair" and tell him it's just for him? Kind of corny but oh well.
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Old 10-05-2012, 10:49 AM   #9
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I ask because depending on that you could play off it. For example, if he thought it as hilarious, you could buy a sturdy chair and jokingly call it "The Bob Chair" and tell him it's just for him? Kind of corny but oh well.

That's a good idea. We have one of the old chairs out in the shed. I can have him bring it up to the patio and tell him this is his chair. And, since we still have the Lazyboy, he can sit in that too.

I'm not going to be there, so I don't have to feel so awkward about hurting his feelings. He's a nice guy... his daughter dumped her five kids off at his house, and left the state...he's raising five grandkids all by himself. I don't know many men who would do that.
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Old 10-05-2012, 10:45 AM   #10
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Re: WWYD... overweight friend and new furniture...

Well... depending on how big Bob is you could get some higher rated camp chairs for him. That does suck, partly that he didn't offer to do anything and partly because it's a tough position to be in because anything you say would be misinterpreted as intolerant of his weight.
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