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Old 11-17-2012, 08:08 PM   #1
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...tell your inlaws to quit feeding your children junk food?

My 4.5 yo DD was there today and I was told she had:

four chocolate doughnuts
chocolate chip muffin
fruit snacks
lollipop
Oreos

and to drink she had just juice (the "contains 10% juice" kind) and a glass of soda. She was only there from about 8-4. I kind of want to scream but somehow I need to make it clear that this isn't acceptable...
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Old 11-17-2012, 08:12 PM   #2
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I might jokingly ask "Yeah, but what FOOD did she eat?"

If it's only once in awhile, I wouldn't worry. If it's a regular deal, it's a problem.
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Old 11-17-2012, 08:15 PM   #3
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I might jokingly ask "Yeah, but what FOOD did she eat?"

If it's only once in awhile, I wouldn't worry. If it's a regular deal, it's a problem.
Yeah, my inlaws watch them every Saturday and Sunday while DH and I are working. It's a big deal.
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I'd just pack all her food and tell them this is all you want her eating.
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Aww....how frustrating to say the least... Maybe try to explain that small amounts is okay..but too much junk makes them have tummy aches?
pack snacks and juice? Send a list?
I think my MIL just loves feeding them sugar all day and sending them home to meltdown..while at her house they are sweet little angels who will do backflips for candy!!
I told her fine..if you must bake cookies at 745AM PLEASE make sure they eat some healthy things before then because they need that first before the sugar rush kicks in.... And BRUSH THEIR TEETH!!!! LOL!
Hope that helps a small bit to know your not alone momma!!
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...tell your inlaws to quit feeding your children junk food?

My 4.5 yo DD was there today and I was told she had:

four chocolate doughnuts
chocolate chip muffin
fruit snacks
lollipop
Oreos

and to drink she had just juice (the "contains 10% juice" kind) and a glass of soda. She was only there from about 8-4. I kind of want to scream but somehow I need to make it clear that this isn't acceptable...

Was this all they fed her? Did they give her any food not entirely made of sugar? If she had some good meals in there, I wouldn't be too mad, but if this is all she ate, something has to be said. I'd just be straight forward and say that you understand that part of being a grandparent is spoiling the grandchildren, but you would really appreciate it if they attempted to balance out the bad with some healthier stuff too - like even a glass of milk with the oreos.
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Was this all they fed her? Did they give her any food not entirely made of sugar? If she had some good meals in there, I wouldn't be too mad, but if this is all she ate, something has to be said. I'd just be straight forward and say that you understand that part of being a grandparent is spoiling the grandchildren, but you would really appreciate it if they attempted to balance out the bad with some healthier stuff too - like even a glass of milk with the oreos.
Well, for lunch she DID get some green beans with her chicken nuggets. Not sure if that is enough to negate the rest of it, though...but it's something, right?

This isn't the first time this has concerned me - they do the same thing with their dog. They have a mini dachshund who is BEYOND morbidly obese (I think she's like 22lbs?) and they continuously feed her table scraps. FIL gives her ice cream nightly and often her treat is a plate of cottage cheese. She cannot get up and down stairs anymore, it's very sad. I don't want my kids to end up like that poor dog! I love my inlaws, they are great people and having them help us with childcare on the weekends is extremely helpful....but they are very unhealthy eaters, and it really bothers me that the sweets and treats are being pushed on to my kids now.
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Next week, I'd bring some apples over with me, and I'd hand them over while saying something like, I think the kids had a bit too much junk last weekend. I'd like to see if we can do a little better this weekend. Let's limit the sugary snack to a few cookies today, ok?

That way, you're not making a big federal case out of it, but you are getting your point across.
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Next week, I'd bring some apples over with me, and I'd hand them over while saying something like, I think the kids had a bit too much junk last weekend. I'd like to see if we can do a little better this weekend. Let's limit the sugary snack to a few cookies today, ok?

That way, you're not making a big federal case out of it, but you are getting your point across.
I agree.
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I would pack her a healthy lunch and say something like..."We are grateful for what you do for us. I went ahead and made (kiddo's name) a lunch to save you the trouble. I stuck some cheese sticks in for snacks. We are working hard to keep sugar down in her diet, so could you please try to limit the amount of sugar she has today?"
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