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Old 11-19-2012, 12:34 PM   #1
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WHY are MILs so terrible?

Or in-laws period.

Why is it that I can get along civilly with 99% of people I come into contact with but 2 minutes with my mil turns me into the hulk?

I tried to Google up factual, scientific reasons for why so many wives and mils hate each other but it was mostly just "mothers still trying to mother blah blah."
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Old 11-19-2012, 12:36 PM   #2
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Re: WHY are MILs so terrible?

Haha. Please vent some more! I wish sometimes I could put a plug in her mouth. She saw my son's amber teething necklace and the first thing she said was "all I'm going to do is make fun of him until you take that off...." What?!?!?! You are ACTUALLY going to make fun of a 9 month old. What a monster!
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Lol. I feel the same way. Not all my IL's but definitely MIL and BIL and SIL. They make me want to
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Old 11-19-2012, 12:40 PM   #4
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YES!!! I have no idea why, I get along with 99% of people, but my MIL, NO WAY. I think it is the mother bear in me!! Something about wanting to raise my children how I want to. I dont care how she would do it, or her opinions. I know what I want and that is how it is to be done! LOL Oh I could really write a book about her.
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I don't know...BUT my ex-mil are still friends, even 9 years after her son left the boys and me.
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I absolutely love my MIL. And FIL isn't so bad either! I consider myself to be incredibly blessed.
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My MIL and I don't see eye to eye at ALL on anything. DH agrees that we would never, ever choose her as a friend, given the choice. But, because she is all we have in the grandparent department we take what we can get and we try to be there for her.

What I often wonder is how can someone with whom I have so little in common, who I think is incredibly immature and self-centred have raised the person I am choosing as my life partner and who I love? How is that possible?
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My MIL and I don't see eye to eye at ALL on anything. DH agrees that we would never, ever choose her as a friend, given the choice. But, because she is all we have in the grandparent department we take what we can get and we try to be there for her.

What I often wonder is how can someone with whom I have so little in common, who I think is incredibly immature and self-centred have raised the person I am choosing as my life partner and who I love? How is that possible?
You saved me a lot of typing there.

I think it may be because there is so much intimacy and love that surrounds these two women but doesn't bind them together, you know? Plus, I think men become complacent when they are single and then wives step in a bit but they are still going along to get along and then BAM, there's a kid and soul searching and you start to realize that yeah, you've got opinions on this stuff and furthermore you deserve respect. Respect that is never forthcoming enough from that evil, evil woman your mother in law.
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Old 11-19-2012, 01:19 PM   #9
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I absolutely love my MIL. And FIL isn't so bad either! I consider myself to be incredibly blessed.
Ditto this! I love my MIL and FIL. They're my *real* parents to me. They're fatastic, generous, intelligent people. They offer advice but understant that we need to parent on our own terms.

My poor DH is the one who got the crappy-end of the stick in the in-law department. My parents are nutty and awful...
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Ditto this! I love my MIL and FIL. They're my *real* parents to me. They're fatastic, generous, intelligent people. They offer advice but understant that we need to parent on our own terms.

My poor DH is the one who got the crappy-end of the stick in the in-law department. My parents are nutty and awful...
That's how it is with us also. I consider my inlaws my "real" family.
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