Diaper Swappers

kcassemom · 11-19-2012, 10:25 PM

Respond to a Craigslist ad asking for help buying a single mom's 4 year old daughter a few gifts for Christmas, if they agree to meet in person with the child there?

keen1981 · 11-19-2012, 10:27 PM

No. I would recommend they seek a church. or school program. People scam constantly. And use kids too. It's no joke.

Only · 11-19-2012, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by keen1981

No. I would recommend they seek a church. or school program. People scam constantly. And use kids too. It's no joke.

This.

People are low, and will use children for anything. Sad.

AcrossTheUniverse · 11-19-2012, 10:29 PM

No. I would send them an e-mail with info for programs in your area (Toys for Tots, Churches, etc...). If I felt compelled to give I would give to one of those organization as they have a system in place for ensuring the items make it to those who truly need them.

KelseyH · 11-20-2012, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by AcrossTheUniverse

No. I would send them an e-mail with info for programs in your area (Toys for Tots, Churches, etc...). If I felt compelled to give I would give to one of those organization as they have a system in place for ensuring the items make it to those who truly need them.

This.

somo_chickenlady · 11-19-2012, 10:29 PM

I agree. While I would feel bad if she truly cannot afford gifts for her daughter, you never know if she will just return them or sell them for the money.

jacquelinemarie82 · 11-19-2012, 10:32 PM

I wouldn't mind if the person was asking for inexpensive items or second hand items. kwim? But if they have a long list or wanting expensive things that I wouldn't even buy for my own daughter than no.... you can get a feel for a person so I say go with your gut. Make sure you do not give out your phone number or address or name though....never know when someone will show up asking for more handouts. Serious on that one.

But if it was someone that was just wanting some little things for their kid to be able to unwrap then I wouldn't mind. Like coloring book, pair of jammies, candy for the stocking, maybe an lower price toy.

Weird for someone to be asking before Thanksgiving though...

Rainfall · 11-19-2012, 10:49 PM

No. Only because I DID a few years ago and think I got scammed.

A mom on CL posted about needing help for presents for her two kids, a boy and a girl. I messaged her and she was super thankful via email and gave me interests for her kids. Very chatty with me back and forth, very open and communicative. I went out and bought a couple of gifts for them and wrapped them all up pretty and even got something for the mom. Set up a time to meet her. When I met her in person, she was totally stand off-ish and barely said two words to me. She didn't even say thank you (only via emails back and forth before the meet up) and wouldn't hardly even LOOK at me. I never saw her kids, but it was supposed to be a secret thing so that the gifts would be from her anyway, so it wasn't the lack of kids that had me feeling uneasy. The whole meet up with her was so...odd. She seemed really, really shady somehow. I just got an icky vibe from it. Maybe she was embarrassed to have needed the help? That's what I've been telling myself so I didn't feel like I got burned. Either way I guess if she sold the items, she must have needed the money so I still feel like I hopefully helped her that year.

But never again off of CL. If one of my mom-to-mom friends posts about knowing someone in need, maybe. But I think I will stick to people I know or an organization.

PajammaGramma · 11-19-2012, 11:14 PM

Probably not. Too many scammers out there.

raymark · 11-19-2012, 11:29 PM

No way

11-19-2012, 10:25 PM	#1
kcassemom Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 83	Would you... Respond to a Craigslist ad asking for help buying a single mom's 4 year old daughter a few gifts for Christmas, if they agree to meet in person with the child there?

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keen1981 Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 11,890 Ratings: 127 Feedback: 100%	No. I would recommend they seek a church. or school program. People scam constantly. And use kids too. It's no joke. __________________ BFing, CDing, all natural mama to three boys! Certified lactation Counselor

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AcrossTheUniverse Registered Users Formerly: ReiSapphireJade Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Arizona! Posts: 5,016 Ratings: 176 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you... No. I would send them an e-mail with info for programs in your area (Toys for Tots, Churches, etc...). If I felt compelled to give I would give to one of those organization as they have a system in place for ensuring the items make it to those who truly need them. __________________ Heather, wife to James & mommy to: Jaden (8.06), Mara (8.07), Fenn (5.09), Elias (7.10), & Levi (11.11) 80lbs lost! i Loved and Lost (6/12), (9/12), & (2/13) i

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somo_chickenlady Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Omaha, NE Posts: 1,976 My Mood:	Re: Would you... I agree. While I would feel bad if she truly cannot afford gifts for her daughter, you never know if she will just return them or sell them for the money. __________________ KARA Mom to Greyson, 14 After 12 years of TTC #2, multiple miscarriages, failed infertility treatments, and two failed (not on our end) attempts at becoming foster/adopt parents in two states...we gave up. I stick around for the awesome conversation.

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jacquelinemarie82 Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 9,143 Ratings: 266 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you... I wouldn't mind if the person was asking for inexpensive items or second hand items. kwim? But if they have a long list or wanting expensive things that I wouldn't even buy for my own daughter than no.... you can get a feel for a person so I say go with your gut. Make sure you do not give out your phone number or address or name though....never know when someone will show up asking for more handouts. Serious on that one. But if it was someone that was just wanting some little things for their kid to be able to unwrap then I wouldn't mind. Like coloring book, pair of jammies, candy for the stocking, maybe an lower price toy. Weird for someone to be asking before Thanksgiving though...

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PajammaGramma Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Central Iowa Posts: 1,660 Ratings: 158 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you... Probably not. Too many scammers out there. __________________ Vicki, married 26 yrs, Mom of 2 sons, Grammy of 7. G (13), N (11), D(10), A (9), C (8), N (6) & V (5). Will do trades!! Tupperware, Bath & Body Works, Gift Cards, Fabric & Notions.