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Old 12-03-2012, 08:47 PM   #1
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At what age is it not appropriate?

It's having discussion with my Mom and wondering what the consensus is on nakedness/showering with a parent.
Is there an age at which it becomes inappropriate ?
I'll come back to post my feelings on it later.
Just curious.

Eta a question. Why does noticing gender differences make it inappropriate to you ?

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Old 12-03-2012, 08:51 PM   #2
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I don't worry about it. My son is almost 3 and we bathe together all the time. It's just the human body if he ever stats getting uncomfortable is.when we'll stop
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Old 12-03-2012, 08:52 PM   #3
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I wouldn't allow my 10 year old to shower with me, but I think it has more to do with your comfort level and the way you feel about nudity/modesty. We have young kids and while we are normally clothed around our kids, they still come to the bathroom with us, etc. To me, it would also be relative to being the same/opposite gender. For example, my 2 year old DD doesnt shower with her Dad (but we dont really shower with our kids anyway).
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Old 12-04-2012, 05:59 AM   #4
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I wouldn't allow my 10 year old to shower with me, but I think it has more to do with your comfort level and the way you feel about nudity/modesty.
This is how we feel. DD1 (5) tends to just bust open doors and forget someone is taking a shower or bother to knock. Sometimes we'll take a bath together though she's getting big so it's not exactly easy to just relax in a tub.
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Old 12-04-2012, 06:20 AM   #5
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As others have said I think it is individual comfort level, both for the child and the parent. I would have said we would have been a modest family, before having kids, but that has not happened. We don't flaunt nudity, but it does occur naturally, getting in and out of showers, going from shower to closet, kids busting in while getting changed. My DD is 9 and has zero modesty within the family. She does have modesty at the pool change room, and when friends are in, though. My DS 7 is a bit more modest, and started showing desire to change alone about a year ago. DS 4 doesn't care yet. I am feeling the need to be more modest in front of DS 7. A while ago he ran through my room while I was getting dressed and stopped, stared for a moment and said, "Boobies!!!", giggled and ran out. I took that as a cue.

One side perk that I had not thought about is having the "talk" with the kids. When we talk about changes to bodies and differences between boys and girls, men and women, my kids already knew it all, naturally, just by exposure. It did make the various levels of the "talk" go very easily and smoothly.
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i think after 7ish. ds2 still asks to shower with me and DD sometimes.
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Re: At what age is it not appropriate?

I won't let my boys see me naked past age 2 or my daughters see DH past age 2. I have vivid memories of my dad naked when I was no more than 3, and it still really bothers me. He was just peeing, but still, I shouldn't know what he looks like...
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For DS, I started feeling uncomfortable about age 3. DH hasn't felt comfortable with DDs since they were about 2. Usually, he waits til DD2 is down for her nap or I am home to shower, so it isn't an issue.

We don't shower with our kids though. We do a tub assembly line style at bedtime. All 3 kids bathe individually.
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For DS, I started feeling uncomfortable about age 3. DH hasn't felt comfortable with DDs since they were about 2. Usually, he waits til DD2 is down for her nap or I am home to shower, so it isn't an issue.

We don't shower with our kids though. We do a tub assembly line style at bedtime. All 3 kids bathe individually.
Yes, to the bolded. DS only ever bathed with us in the shower until he was 3. He never took a tub bath up until that point. I started becoming uncomfortable sometime when he was 3.
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when my boys start asking me why my parts r diff from theres is when i stop. usally around 2-3ish. i stped w/ my youngest son around 2. my dh dosnt shower w/ him nomore cuz he like to yank on dadys ahhmmm..... & ask "whats that?" when his eyes r closed. i still shower w/ my daughter.
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