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Old 12-06-2012, 02:28 PM   #1
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My Autistic child will not stay in his carseat...

OK so I know I am not on much but I am trying, we don't have internet now and I have to go to the library. We just got a diagnosis for our son and now he's a SN child. He's Autistic, we are really trying to get a handle on it and come to grips with the diagnosis. I mean we figured that was what was going on but at the same time it's quite a shock when it is told to you. I am going to try to get on here more often cause I could use some support but I do need some help right now


Does anyone know of a car seat for special needs children that will not stay in their seats? Ezra will NOT stay in his seat at all, he pushes the chest clip all the way down to the buckle and then gets his arms out and that is how he sits in his seat till I have to pull over and put him back in only to have him out again before I am even back in the car. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do.

The school suggested putting duct tape on the chest clip to keep it in place but I know that is not safe so I don't want to do that. I guess I am looking for a chest clip that is interchangeable that will lock in place so it can't be slid down or a new car seat. He's starting to outgrow his seat any-ways so we are going to have to be buying a new seat soon. I am open to anything really as long as he's safe in the car. I would still like for him to be rear facing if at all possible but he's reaching the end of that cause his height. He's 36lbs and 37inches tall. Thank you all so much if you can help!!!
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get the sticky back velcro and put the rough side on the chest clip. it wont ruin anything but the feel of it should discourage him we did this with the autistic boy i nannied. im actually about to do it with my non-sn 2 year old bc he does the same thing:/
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Old 12-08-2012, 02:13 PM   #3
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get the sticky back velcro and put the rough side on the chest clip. it wont ruin anything but the feel of it should discourage him we did this with the autistic boy i nannied. im actually about to do it with my non-sn 2 year old bc he does the same thing:/
I will give that a go, thank you
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Old 12-06-2012, 10:18 PM   #4
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I don't know how old he is but you could use this vest with this buckle guard. I had to a use a similar vest for my son when he was five and had a healing incision in his spinal column (in our case we used it because he had to lay flat in the car. He couldn't be upright until the incision healed enough the cerebral spinal fluid wouldn't leak out).

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I don't know how old he is but you could use this vest with this buckle guard. I had to a use a similar vest for my son when he was five and had a healing incision in his spinal column (in our case we used it because he had to lay flat in the car. He couldn't be upright until the incision healed enough the cerebral spinal fluid wouldn't leak out).

Does that make it so that he's out of the carseat though? That would scare me seeing as he's still so young and so small.
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Does that make it so that he's out of the carseat though? That would scare me seeing as he's still so young and so small.
The harness is the car seat. I haven't looked up crash testing but I imagine the drawbacks will be the same as those older built in car seats that minivans used to come with.

In case of an accident if your child were to panic and become combative it would make it harder for the firemen/police officer to extract him because they can't cut the car seat out and remove child and car seat together which if I remember correctly is the preferred method for quick removal in such situations. Unless he was in the middle I imagine a side impact would be more dangerous (how much more whether a small percentage or a large percentage I don't know) since there wouldn't be a physical shell around his body to help absorb the impact of metal crumpling inwards. If I remember the postings about it online it will require permanent alteration of your vehicle but I can't remember what the alterations were you would have to look that part up.

This is considered one of the ultimate escape proof car safety devices so despite the drawbacks it is preferable safety wise to a child that constantly takes his/her seat belt off. A car accident only takes seconds and there may not be a forewarning so pulling the car over frequently and making them put their seat belt back on is just not a reliable way to keep your child safe not to mention the driver distraction aspect which would probably make you more prone to being in an accident.

In your shoes I would probably try the Houdini Stop first and then if that fails move onto something more foolproof like the EZ on Vest with the buckle guard. My personal experience won't count in this because my son used the EZ on medical Vest (a different vest the manufacturer makes) which I am not even sure you can buy outside of a hospital. His neurosurgeon wouldn't discharge him until the insurance paid for his vest because transporting him upright was just that risky.
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I don't know how old he is but you could use this vest with this buckle guard. I had to a use a similar vest for my son when he was five and had a healing incision in his spinal column (in our case we used it because he had to lay flat in the car. He couldn't be upright until the incision healed enough the cerebral spinal fluid wouldn't leak out).
This is what we use and what I was going to suggest. I couldn't keep our son I a Carseat as long as I would have liked, he was just all over the place. It's got to be safer to use that than for him to be roaming around unbuckled.
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First, I just wanted to give a finding out that you have a special needs child is so difficult.

That is tough spot for the car. My BFF has two children with autism and the older one was so hard in the car. I don't have any great advice other than stopping right away and fixing the straps as many times as it take which could be MANY I just wanted to mention that she needed her DD to be in a harness for as long as possible so she bought the Britax Regent which has now been replaced by the Frontier 85. That would give you the longest harness use without getting into special needs seats that are $$$$$.
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First, I just wanted to give a finding out that you have a special needs child is so difficult.

That is tough spot for the car. My BFF has two children with autism and the older one was so hard in the car. I don't have any great advice other than stopping right away and fixing the straps as many times as it take which could be MANY I just wanted to mention that she needed her DD to be in a harness for as long as possible so she bought the Britax Regent which has now been replaced by the Frontier 85. That would give you the longest harness use without getting into special needs seats that are $$$$$.
Thank you so much, I needed that this has been so hard. I have no one to talk to about this and am in the house with him all the time. I never get a break other than coming to the library for an hour a week. I am just so stressed out and then this only adds to it all.

I am going to check out the seats you mentioned cause I looked up a special needs seat and it was so much I almost passed out. I think $1,000 for a car seat is crazy, especially for a family with a SN child.
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First, I just wanted to give a finding out that you have a special needs child is so difficult.

That is tough spot for the car. My BFF has two children with autism and the older one was so hard in the car. I don't have any great advice other than stopping right away and fixing the straps as many times as it take which could be MANY I just wanted to mention that she needed her DD to be in a harness for as long as possible so she bought the Britax Regent which has now been replaced by the Frontier 85. That would give you the longest harness use without getting into special needs seats that are $$$$$.
the last time i knew britax regent dose have the highest in weight for harness but the britax frountier 85 is the higest in hight. so the frountier will last longer then the britax. unless thngs have changed then plz correct me if im wrong. my son who has autism & is tall got to the age of 8 be we had to swich him into hbb mode.

i want to send u mama. my oldest son has autism & i understand its a rought road. if u need to talk or have questions. feel free to contack me. if u need to talk to somone let me know & ill give u my home #
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