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Old 05-19-2014, 08:58 AM   #1
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Expecting and already dreading BFing

Help! I'm already despising the thought of breastfeeding again. I had a miserable experience with Baby1. Gave up after 8 weeks. I had serious thrush and didn't know it. I was defeated before I got started after Baby2. Gave up because I was too exhausted (and still uninformed) to try with him. Baby3 I dug in, learned about thrush and persevered until 14 months. Yay! But y'all... I hated it. I was so glad to give her the great nutrition, was happy I was feeding her the way God designed me to. But it hurt every time for 6 solid months. And then after that, it still hurt a lot. So I'm dreading it this time around. I don't have a pump. I don't know that I can afford a pump. I have used a hand pump occasionally. Like 3 times. I had a cheap electric that broke that never worked well. My body never responded well to pumping BUT I never had a good one either. It also seems like pumping would take up so much more time.
Anything you can suggest to help?
I want this baby to have the best nutrition but my first two are very healthy today and they Had mostly formula.
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Old 05-19-2014, 09:16 AM   #2
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no advice but I'm having some of the same feelings of dread. feeding ds was a nightmare at first, bad latch and thrush. I was bleeding, I cried every time he needed to nurse. for a few Weeks I had to pump one side because my tissue was so sore. somehow we made it through that (with a good lactation consultant) but I really think it contributed to my post partum depression.

I'm just hoping it is a little easier next time around
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Old 05-19-2014, 09:23 AM   #3
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no advice but I'm having some of the same feelings of dread. feeding ds was a nightmare at first, bad latch and thrush. I was bleeding, I cried every time he needed to nurse. for a few Weeks I had to pump one side because my tissue was so sore. somehow we made it through that (with a good lactation consultant) but I really think it contributed to my post partum depression.

I'm just hoping it is a little easier next time around
Wow. Makes my trials seem much less. In my humble opinion, I would think that definitely contributed to your PPD. I can't shake the feeling that if I don't breastfeed, I'm not being the best mama I can possibly be. But at the same time, I can read your story and tell you this:
A happy mama is much better than an upset mama. So if BFing is hard to the point it makes you unhappy, feed that baby a bottle and call it a day!! You love your child. It matters more how you treat them and less what you feed them. Their lives are more than milk in the first year.
So don't stress about it. Feed them how you want to.

How can I tell you that (and I do mean it) but not relax on myself?
Ahhhhh!!!!!!!
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Old 05-19-2014, 09:30 AM   #4
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aw I know what you mean, mama. we are much harder on ourselves than we are on other people. mom guilt is so hard. I have never batted an eye at my IRL friends that switched to bottle feeding when bf got too hard. for some reason I couldn't cut myself that same slack.
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aw I know what you mean, mama. we are much harder on ourselves than we are on other people. mom guilt is so hard. I have never batted an eye at my IRL friends that switched to bottle feeding when bf got too hard. for some reason I couldn't cut myself that same slack.
What is IRL?

And thank you.
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Same here. I had a bad latch and was bleeding too. A nipple shield and the pump saved my life. We never bought a pump, just borrowed 1 from the hospital till my nipples were healed. My mom was the one who supported me through this horrible experience. I found out that having somebody to encourage you makes all the difference. I was ready to give up by the end of the first month but my mom held me up and I ended up nursing ds till he turned 2. This time I am planning on getting my nipples prepped before hand(massaging them with a nipple cream, I hope that helps with the process), getting a pump and making sure we have the right latch. My insurance covers the pump, so call your insurance if they do that or cover the rent for borrowing 1. I wish you all the best this time round.
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Same here. I had a bad latch and was bleeding too. A nipple shield and the pump saved my life. We never bought a pump, just borrowed 1 from the hospital till my nipples were healed. My mom was the one who supported me through this horrible experience. I found out that having somebody to encourage you makes all the difference. I was ready to give up by the end of the first month but my mom held me up and I ended up nursing ds till he turned 2. This time I am planning on getting my nipples prepped before hand(massaging them with a nipple cream, I hope that helps with the process), getting a pump and making sure we have the right latch. My insurance covers the pump, so call your insurance if they do that or cover the rent for borrowing 1. I wish you all the best this time round.
Do you have any idea what pump is best? All I have ever heard is Medela is best. But I don't know how old that info is.
My insurance only pays for a pump if you work which I don't. (Hubby is breadwinner here.)
But I never thought of renting a pump from hospital to see if pumping would work for me. Thanks! Great idea! I think that may be the compromise I have been looking for. Thanks so much again!
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Do you have any idea what pump is best? All I have ever heard is Medela is best. But I don't know how old that info is.
My insurance only pays for a pump if you work which I don't. (Hubby is breadwinner here.)
Have you checked on that while pregnant this time or in the past? I was under the impression that insurance had to cover a pump now, no questions asked.
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Have you checked on that while pregnant this time or in the past? I was under the impression that insurance had to cover a pump now, no questions asked.
They do now! Yay!!
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Have you checked on that while pregnant this time or in the past? I was under the impression that insurance had to cover a pump now, no questions asked.
My insurance covers 1 breast pump per birth every 12 months.
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