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Old 04-06-2008, 01:46 PM   #1
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When you had a natural MC what did you do with the fetus? Please noone flame me for asking this.
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Old 04-06-2008, 01:49 PM   #2
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I have heard of a number of things. Some moms bury it while planting a tree or a shrub to use as a memory...
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I have heard of a number of things. Some moms bury it while planting a tree or a shrub to use as a memory...
Thank you, I was thinking about planting lily of the valley where I laid her down so it blooms around this time or the year as a marker but didn't know if it was weird or strange to want to do this.
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Not at all mama. There are lots of moms who have been there
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My natural miscarriage was of an empty sac so I flushed it. If there had been a baby, I'm not sure what I would have done with her. I think planting your tiny one near or under a special plant to help feed it keeps her essence alive in a special way. It's also a good form of closure for many moms.
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I wasnt far enough along when I miscarried hun. I am so sorry for your loss, but I think its a good idea to do what your planning on doing. I would do the same thing.
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I was only 5-6 weeks, so it was just a huge clot looking thing, so I ended up flushing. At your stage, I would totally bury it I am so sorry mama
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I was having complications when I miscarried. There were tons of huge clots at home. I just couldn't deal with how much I was bleeding and ended up flushing alot. I passed another very huge clot at the hospital and then passed out. My mom called for help and flushed. Then I had an emergency d&c. At the time everything was so scarey and I was just glad to be at the hospital getting help. Now looking back it hurts alot to not have been able to have the baby and do something special. I drew a tatoo for my husband of an angel baby with the name Patience under it. That helped a little.
I think planting something is a great idea. I would try to do something that you know will survive your climate and come back every year. It would be difficult for me if the plant didn't make it.
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I am so sorry!! I was 8 weeks with both of mine, and I haven't decided what I am going to do with mine yet. (((((hugs)))))
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Thank you Mamas the hugs and kind words do mean alot right now. I just feel so completely empty right and numb now my dh wont even talk about it he just asks when i am really quiet if I am ok and thats all. I have been waiting for him to ask about it but nothing I guess thats just how he is going to deal with everything in his own way
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