Diaper Swappers

mum0fthr33 · 04-06-2008, 01:46 PM

When you had a natural MC what did you do with the fetus? Please noone flame me for asking this.

ClothDiaperMePlease · 04-06-2008, 01:49 PM

I have heard of a number of things. Some moms bury it while planting a tree or a shrub to use as a memory...

mum0fthr33 · 04-06-2008, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ClothDiaperMePlease

I have heard of a number of things. Some moms bury it while planting a tree or a shrub to use as a memory...

Thank you, I was thinking about planting lily of the valley where I laid her down so it blooms around this time or the year as a marker but didn't know if it was weird or strange to want to do this.

ClothDiaperMePlease · 04-06-2008, 02:27 PM

Not at all mama. There are lots of moms who have been there

mcpforever · 04-06-2008, 08:15 PM

My natural miscarriage was of an empty sac so I flushed it. If there had been a baby, I'm not sure what I would have done with her. I think planting your tiny one near or under a special plant to help feed it keeps her essence alive in a special way. It's also a good form of closure for many moms.

Miles · 04-07-2008, 06:27 AM

I wasnt far enough along when I miscarried hun. I am so sorry for your loss, but I think its a good idea to do what your planning on doing. I would do the same thing.

*Katherine* · 04-07-2008, 06:29 AM

I was only 5-6 weeks, so it was just a huge clot looking thing, so I ended up flushing. At your stage, I would totally bury it

I am so sorry mama

pottymomma · 04-07-2008, 06:43 AM

I was having complications when I miscarried. There were tons of huge clots at home. I just couldn't deal with how much I was bleeding and ended up flushing alot. I passed another very huge clot at the hospital and then passed out. My mom called for help and flushed. Then I had an emergency d&c. At the time everything was so scarey and I was just glad to be at the hospital getting help. Now looking back it hurts alot to not have been able to have the baby and do something special. I drew a tatoo for my husband of an angel baby with the name Patience under it. That helped a little.
I think planting something is a great idea. I would try to do something that you know will survive your climate and come back every year. It would be difficult for me if the plant didn't make it.

Malania · 04-07-2008, 07:31 AM

I am so sorry!! I was 8 weeks with both of mine, and I haven't decided what I am going to do with mine yet. (((((hugs)))))

mum0fthr33 · 04-07-2008, 08:07 PM

Thank you Mamas the hugs and kind words do mean alot right now. I just feel so completely empty right and numb now my dh wont even talk about it he just asks when i am really quiet if I am ok and thats all. I have been waiting for him to ask about it but nothing I guess thats just how he is going to deal with everything in his own way

04-06-2008, 01:46 PM	#1
mum0fthr33 Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Connellsville Pa Posts: 1,152 Ratings: 184 Feedback: 99% My Mood:	MC question When you had a natural MC what did you do with the fetus? Please noone flame me for asking this. __________________ http://www.hyenacart.com/Luvease

04-06-2008, 01:49 PM	#2
ClothDiaperMePlease Registered Users Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Asheville, NC Posts: 6,637 Ratings: 105 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: MC question I have heard of a number of things. Some moms bury it while planting a tree or a shrub to use as a memory... __________________ LM Dready mama to 3 delightful boys, one darling daughter and wife to one mostly delightful DH The midwife considers the miracle of childbirth as normal, and leaves it alone unless there's trouble. The obstetrician normally sees childbirth as trouble. If he leaves it alone, it's a miracle.-Sheila Stubbs

04-06-2008, 02:27 PM	#4
ClothDiaperMePlease Registered Users Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Asheville, NC Posts: 6,637 Ratings: 105 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: MC question Not at all mama. There are lots of moms who have been there __________________ LM Dready mama to 3 delightful boys, one darling daughter and wife to one mostly delightful DH The midwife considers the miracle of childbirth as normal, and leaves it alone unless there's trouble. The obstetrician normally sees childbirth as trouble. If he leaves it alone, it's a miracle.-Sheila Stubbs

04-06-2008, 08:15 PM	#5
mcpforever Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Bama Posts: 10,965 Ratings: 37 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: MC question My natural miscarriage was of an empty sac so I flushed it. If there had been a baby, I'm not sure what I would have done with her. I think planting your tiny one near or under a special plant to help feed it keeps her essence alive in a special way. It's also a good form of closure for many moms. __________________ Melissa-Wife, mother to DS 4/02 and DD 4/07, DS 7/08 Due 7/13 with a little lady ISO: my lost shaker of salt

04-07-2008, 06:27 AM	#6
Miles Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: upstate ny Posts: 6,304 Ratings: 116 Feedback: 99% My Mood:	Re: MC question I wasnt far enough along when I miscarried hun. I am so sorry for your loss, but I think its a good idea to do what your planning on doing. I would do the same thing. __________________ Magan for 11 yrs(11-18-00), SAHM to three girls(Cheyenne, Dakota and Marissa) Enjoying being a non co sleeping, baby wearing, Vaccinating, mama!