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Old 05-09-2008, 12:53 PM   #1
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I hear this absolutely every time we are around my DH's family now. It is getting so old! They have been doing this since DD was 6 months old and it is becoming much more frequent and persistant now.

I go into another room to nurse DD so that I don't offend them. Well MIL or GMIL always end up coming in there and giving me a hard time about still nursing DD.

Today we had lunch with them. I went into another room to nurse DD. She was smiling and nursing and cooing. MIL and GMIL come in the room. They can see how happy she is to be nursing and they both started raising their voices and saying "It is time to wean! This is disguisting!" Followed by nasty scrunched up looks on their faces.

It makes me crazy! DS has severe milk protein and egg allergies. DD has already been tested and has allergies to milk protein, egg, fish, and soy. What exactly is she supposed to drink? Am I supposed to switch her to only water, juice, or am I supposed to shell out the big bucks for a hypoallergenic formula just because they think she is too old to nurse? Really what do they expect?

Gah! I just needed to vent to someone who will understand.

Thanks for listening.
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Old 05-09-2008, 12:55 PM   #2
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That is so mean that they even come in and tell you that stuff while nursing!
Just keep doing what you're doing mama... I know it is hard to ignore them!
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Is your DH willing to tell them to put a lid on it? My MIL and SIL tried harassing me once or twice and DH started quoting WHO recommendations until their eyes glazed over. They are very supportive now, even if they don't agree with me.
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Is your DH willing to tell them to put a lid on it? My MIL and SIL tried harassing me once or twice and DH started quoting WHO recommendations until their eyes glazed over. They are very supportive now, even if they don't agree with me.
Thats what I do if the topic is even brought up No one has said a word this time around with DS#2!
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Next time they come in just squirt them with milk!
You're doing a great job and you know what's best for your dd.
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Next time they come in just squirt them with milk!
You're doing a great job and you know what's best for your dd.
OMGoodness!!! That would be so awesome!
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Re: "You need to wean! It is time!" -Vent

I can totally relate on,y it's MY mother and her husband who don't approve. It is really getting to me. I'm not weaning any time soon though; DS will be a year on the 15th
I wish their was a solution for this
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I can relate, but its my own family, not the ILs.

My mom told me last week that the reason Maddie is so "dependent and clingy" (yes, I know its a +/- 2 year old phase) is because she cosleeps and that the reason she has a speech delay is because I still nurse her.
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I can relate, but its my own family, not the ILs.

My mom told me last week that the reason Maddie is so "dependent and clingy" (yes, I know its a +/- 2 year old phase) is because she cosleeps and that the reason she has a speech delay is because I still nurse her.
Ughh! I hear that same stuff all.the.time! Ds had a speech delay and was always really high needs. They constantly blamed it on him being breastfed and co-sleeping.
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I would have a long talk with dh and tell him that this bothers you very much and that you are doing what you think is best for your child. You should tell him that you hope he feels the same as you about the health and well being of your children and family. Tell him that he needs to speak with his family about this and tell them that if they can't stop harrassing you about nursing YOUR baby then you do not want to be around them. If this doesn't work then lock the door when you go nurse the baby and if they continue to act like a$$es then remove yourself and your children from their presence until they can respect your choices.

I use to go off to another room to nurse when my in-laws where here or when I was at their home (but we don't go there any more too many kids not enough room) Personally I am old and wouldn't take any more crap off of anyone and I would tell them to #$%%^&^* off and leave me alone.
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