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Old 11-28-2008, 03:32 PM   #1
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$135 a day for daycare!!! I'm so frustrated :( (long)

I responded to a home care ad I thought would be perfect. A SAHM saying she was looking for a "playmate" for her son (3 months older than DS) part time Mon/Tues/Thur/Fri and she is only about 5 minutes away from my work.

I only need Mon/Thur/Fri - but everything else fit. I told her that I would need care from 6:45AM - 3:45PM (9 hours) Mon/Thur/Fri. She responded and said she wanted $15 an hour!!! This is for me to drop my son off at her house and I provide food/snacks.

I responded and told her thank you very much for your response, but we just can't afford $135 a day ($405 a week) for drop off care. I didn't tell her that our current provider is $25 a day (she was a temp care though - through January so now I need somebody else). I also didn't tell her that DH's take home pay is only $64/day so she was asking more than double what he makes!

She responded back and said "What rate do you think is reasonable by the hour and we could possibly negotiate?"

I don't know what to do - I kinda want to ignore her, but I hate doing that to people. The thing is, there isn't a "reasonable" HOURLY rate for daycares - that is why they have lots of kids. Occasionally you will find the parent who just wants an extra kid or two for some spending change. $15/hr could be reasonable for a parents night out or an hour or two while you do your shopping, or for tutoring or lessons. But, does anybody here think $405 a week is reasonable for one kiddo three times a week while the parent works - that is $21K a year for three days a week care. I am obviously not what she is looking for.

I wish it was reasonable - I would quit my job and stay home with my baby and a couple of his playmates

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Disclaimer - I am not saying childcare is in any way easy or should be paid low - I just can't afford that
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Old 11-28-2008, 03:34 PM   #2
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OMG that's insane! So sorry, mama!
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When I read the title I thought you must be from Seattle. That's the going rate here, but it is for a Nanny. Someone who would come to your house and also doing light cleaning and little extras like that.

But there is a difference from a Nanny to you having to bring your little one out at 6:45a.m. And that mom being able to stay home. I think that 25-35 a day is reasonable for your area.

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When I read the title I thought you must be from Seattle. That's the going rate here, but it is for a Nanny. Someone who would come to your house and also doing light cleaning and little extras like that.

But there is a difference from a Nanny to you having to bring your little one out at 6:45a.m. And that mom being able to stay home. I think that 25-35 a day is reasonable for your area.

Keep looking you'll fing the right person.

ME TOO!!!

Before I had DD, I was making $17/hour as a nanny. I went to their house, cooked for, cleaned up after, and took care of their child. I also was the one to accompany her to multiple therapy sessions per week.

After I had DD, I went back to work for a few months, and made $14/hour. Again, I went to their house, cooked for (bottles), cleaned up after, and took care of their child. No therapy this time, but I had my 3 month old (at the time) DD with me, so my attention was split, therefore dropping my rate.

If I were to watch a child in my home, I would still make about $15/hour, but I was a professional, career nanny, AND I have an AA degree in Early Childhood Ed. Not that any other mother is inferior to me, but if you are a SAHM with no prior experience/education, you can not ask what a professional nanny (with our without a degree) would ask.

Anyway, . There is bound to be other, more affordable and APPROPRIATE options in your area. Good luck!

ETA: I just read that you found something that works. Congrats!!! And good job for standing your ground.
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Old 11-28-2008, 03:47 PM   #5
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$15/hr for one kid is ridiculous, IMO. Especially if it's not a formal nanny. She's a SAHM looking for playmates for her kids, but it seems more like she's trying to have a job. If it were me, I'd tell her what we were willing to pay, to me that would be like $150/week for one kid.
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Re: $135 a day for daycare!!! I'm so frustrated :( (long)

I would just respond with what you know is the goining rate in your area - $25/$30 a day. I would just flat out say "I currently pay $25/per day, and have been quoted around the same price (within $5-$10) from a few other people. $25 a day is reasonable."

Maybe she has never looked for childcare before and just doesnt know that $15 is unreasonable?
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Old 11-28-2008, 04:00 PM   #7
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Re: $135 a day for daycare!!! I'm so frustrated :( (long)

That is ridiculous!! Around here it is $25-$35 a day also.
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That is ridiculous!! Around here it is $25-$35 a day also.


I pay $75 per week for my 18 mo old and 2 after schoolers for 2 days of care - T/TH. The sitter comes to my house (college age 19 yr old female) and is welcome to whatever we have here and is allowed to use the computer when baby is napping. She has the baby from 10:30 to about 2:45 then my 5 yr old gets dropped off from Preschool and an hour later (3:45) my 9 yr old gets home from school (bussed). (It works out to around $6/hr.)

The going rate here for in-home DC or centers is around $25 per day for 0 to 2 yr olds and around $15 to $20/day for PreK and before/after school. IMO $135 a day is outrageous. Seriously, for me to even consider half that she would have to be *extremely* well qualified ~and~ provide foods/snacks. (Oh, and use my cloth ... )

I don't even make $135/day ...

The way I decided on rate was to check around in my area for the "average" price for DC. In-home are usually a bit less, and usually non-licensed providers are even a tad bit less. I think $4 to $5 per hour per child is reasonable, although I would consider getting close to minimum wage (here it's $7.50/hr) for the right situation.

I have had some "nannies" tell me they charge $10/hr, but I only need care for one child for the majority of the time ... so, for me that was too high.
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Hi mama, i'm not a lisenced provider but also a sahm and i care for a 2 month old from 12-5 a few days a week in their home and i only charge her $7/hour. What she is asking is out of the question. She doesnt have a lisence, and wants to bring her own child. No job would let you do that! You have to keep it within reason. I think $7 an hour would be perfectly reasonable especially considering the circumstances. (Mine is "under the table".) I'd explain to her that exact thing, that she can bring her own child, eat your food, and watch your child for $7-8$ an hour. Ask her if she knows of any other position that you can bring your own child with you paying $15 an hour, I dont think there is one unless you are watching 4-5 kids and giving them rides to activities and the parents have the $$ and even then those types of families hire professional nannies! Good luck!


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I responded to a home care ad I thought would be perfect. A SAHM saying she was looking for a "playmate" for her son (3 months older than DS) part time Mon/Tues/Thur/Fri and she is only about 5 minutes away from my work.

I only need Mon/Thur/Fri - but everything else fit. I told her that I would need care from 6:45AM - 3:45PM (9 hours) Mon/Thur/Fri. She responded and said she wanted $15 an hour!!! This is for me to drop my son off at her house and I provide food/snacks.

I responded and told her thank you very much for your response, but we just can't afford $135 a day ($405 a week) for drop off care. I didn't tell her that our current provider is $25 a day (she was a temp care though - through January so now I need somebody else). I also didn't tell her that DH's take home pay is only $64/day so she was asking more than double what he makes!

She responded back and said "What rate do you think is reasonable by the hour and we could possibly negotiate?"

I don't know what to do - I kinda want to ignore her, but I hate doing that to people. The thing is, there isn't a "reasonable" HOURLY rate for daycares - that is why they have lots of kids. Occasionally you will find the parent who just wants an extra kid or two for some spending change. $15/hr could be reasonable for a parents night out or an hour or two while you do your shopping, or for tutoring or lessons. But, does anybody here think $405 a week is reasonable for one kiddo three times a week while the parent works - that is $21K a year for three days a week care. I am obviously not what she is looking for.

I wish it was reasonable - I would quit my job and stay home with my baby and a couple of his playmates

WWYD

Disclaimer - I am not saying childcare is in any way easy or should be paid low - I just can't afford that
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Old 11-28-2008, 04:11 PM   #10
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I pay about $7/ hour for my child care provider... its in-home, i drop him off and she has her baby, mine and one other. She is fabulous, licensed and serious... with structured play and nurturing, not just a running play date.

$15 / hour is what i would pay for a nanny that came to my home and I'd pay less if her attention was split between my child and her own.

to me a nanny is different than a home daycare ... in this area, nannys get paid vacation and also sometimes benefits.
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