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Old 11-11-2006, 09:29 PM   #1
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DH IS PISSED!!!!!

He is SOOOO mad.. becuae he wants me to MAKE our newborn sleep in a crib and cry him/herself to sleep... I told him no way.. I am doing what i did with my other two kids and co-sleeping...like hes gonna get up and deal with it with my anyway.. I am alone in it!!! He just walked off pissed and slammed the door.. why do men have to be that way!!!! he is as far from AP as you can get!
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Old 11-11-2006, 09:35 PM   #2
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Ahh, i feel you pain, thats why we have too double beds together and I get up with the baby, if it were up to him A would be in another room.... I We both had to give alittle


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Ahh, i feel you pain, thats why we have too double beds together and I get up with the baby, if it were up to him A would be in another room.... I We both had to give alittle


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Thats already a given.. I got the boot with dd2 when she was born... so we already have a bed in the new babies room and I will be in there come April when baby is here... not like he will even notice either way.. he is just mad becuase he says if we do it this way now that we wont have problems later getting him/her to sleep in his/her own bed... dd2 still cries at night..and shes almost 3.. but serisouly.. does it help... do babies that always slept in thier cribs just stay in bed as toddlers???
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Perhaps you could give him some info, a description of just what CIO does to a child emotionally, the irreversible brain damage/trauma that it causes, and how it will literally cause the child emotional problems for life.....I'm assuming he's not actually an evil person, he just wants some time alone, an "easier" baby, etc, right? I'm sure if he knew how bad it really is he would be more understanding.....
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Perhaps you could give him some info, a description of just what CIO does to a child emotionally, the irreversible brain damage/trauma that it causes, and how it will literally cause the child emotional problems for life.....I'm assuming he's not actually an evil person, he just wants some time alone, an "easier" baby, etc, right? I'm sure if he knew how bad it really is he would be more understanding.....
My husband loves co-sleeping because it makes the baby "easy". She doesn't cry, I just roll over when she gruntles,latch her on, done. Twice a night since birth. No sleepless nights like his friends had...he gets the " you look so well rested for having a newborn" a lot.
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Perhaps you could give him some info, a description of just what CIO does to a child emotionally, the irreversible brain damage/trauma that it causes, and how it will literally cause the child emotional problems for life.....I'm assuming he's not actually an evil person, he just wants some time alone, an "easier" baby, etc, right? I'm sure if he knew how bad it really is he would be more understanding.....
Have him read some information from Dr. Sears. My good friend is a psychologist and gave me a lot of research on the effects of CIO and not co-sleeping. It's scary and sad I hope he will listed and or read the information if you can find some. You need to do what's best for you and your newborn.
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Rachele, I am so sorry he is being a big butt abouthis...
But you have to do what is right for you and the baby. While i never say that sleeping in a differnt room from yourspouse is a good diea, i think, espaiclly when they are young, you need to be there for the little3 baby, not the big one.

What about a co-sleeper?? LIke you told me, you can get the arms reach pretty cheap at consignment shop. That is what i am doing if there ever isa next time..

Hang in mama, and tell your bigchild to stop throwing tantrums. He is worse than your 3 year old with this...
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i'm sorry, hope h changes his mind, daniel also wants the next baby not to co-sleep but i am not even going to discuss it because both kids have co-slept and any future ones will also
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We transitioned Jackson around 4 months. That way he's used to the pack-n-play too, for nap times and things. He sleeps in the pnp all night for the most part. Though if he wants us, he's more than welcome in our bed. He just sleeps better in his. He's still in our room. Right next to me.

AP, to me, isn't just about the baby. Obviously, the baby comes first since his/her issues are needs and an adult can be put on hold. But if your DH is really against it, I'd come up with a compromise. Maybe baby in your room, but not your bed if the baby is okay with that. I just think that AP is about the family as a whole.

Now, if DH is absolutely unwilling to compromise, that's his issue. But maybe he's soften up a bit if you were willing to budge a little too? I know my husband was. You might have already tried that, I have no idea. Just wanted to suggest it jic.
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my dh said the same thing and I used exclusively a co-sleeper bassinet next to my bed until mikey was like 7 or 8 months old.....dh wanted him in his own crib and I said no way!! he was just too little and I didnt even try to put him in his own room until i felt he was ready....that was when i couldnt even go to bed and he would wake up....now he is such a great sleeper and I always always have my video camera monitor on him so I get to see him at all times....my dh laughs cuz mikeys bedroom is serioulsy like 3 feet away from where our bed is in our room.....but he's like "whatever makes mam happy"

You have to make the chose that you feel comfortable with cuz you never get that time back and you dont want to regret anything...ykwim???
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