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Old 12-12-2006, 04:28 AM   #1
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I feel like a bad mom lately...
I really can't stand crying or whining and it's not like she cries very much at all but when she does I am so annoyed and I just want to tell her "be quiet baby you are bugging me!!!" I don't know what it is, I am so irritable lately and it's not just the baby, the dog makes me so angry. The dog will whine or get in my way and I get SO mad I feel like I want to hit her (which I don't believe in doing). Maybe it's this whole AF while breastfeeding thing I seriously feel like I have been PMSing for 2 weeks straigh and I am just exausted all the time and feel sick. I love to hold my baby and alway have her close to me and I know that I have been putting her in the intellitainer thingy too much lately. DH and I have been talking about what it would be like to have another baby lately (just talking about it, not considering it) and 1/2 of me would love another one and 1/2 of me would if I got pregnant again. I can't even handle one baby crying for 60 seconds, I would probably go insane if I had two . Anyway thanks for letting me vent, I guess I just need to try and relax or something.
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Old 12-12-2006, 05:12 AM   #2
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Hugs mama. I think we have all felt this way from time to time. The holiday season along with PMS/breastfeeding issues certainly don't help any. Your dd is young, you have pleanty of time to determine if you want another baby and if you can handle another babe. Don't feel you are a bad parent because if 1 or 2 weeks of feelings.
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Please do not be so hard on yourself! It is normal to feel overwhelmed. Society has given women this silly idea that being a mother is like a tv commercial, quiet babies,clean houses while mom has perfect hair and makeup. I have 2 perfect little screamers who drive me off the wall and I still want another..... I think that even if you decide not to have more just the fact that you want more says that YOU ARE cut out for motherhood. Just look at that beautiful girl ahh just wait till she tells you she loves you..just out of the blue...
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Old 12-12-2006, 09:15 AM   #4
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I agree with the pp... I've gone through periods like this too. Its normal and it WILL pass.
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Old 12-12-2006, 09:19 AM   #5
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DO you think you may have PPD? Just something to think about. Also, I know alot of women (myself included) have thyroid issues that started right after the birth of a baby, have you had yours checked? I know back after the birth of my 1st child I got to the point where everything annoyed me, I would cry alot and I couldnt stand to hear ds cry, it would be like nails on a chalkboard, i just wanted to scream! Came to find out it had alot to do with my hormones (thyroid) and once that got taken care of, I went back to myself.

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I think we've all been there momma! I know I've been there a lot lately.
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Old 12-12-2006, 09:22 AM   #7
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I agree that it is normal but if it last a looong time and you seem to get worse. I would go in and talk to someone. I sat there for 6 months feeling like that and it just got worse and worse. After a while It got to the point where I could not handle it anymore. I finally went in and talked to someone and was diagnosed with PPD. They did a bunch of blood work and exams to make sure it was no other underlying condition. Been on meds since end of Oct and I am now starting to notice a difference. My husband and family are noticing it too and it is a good different. Just make sure if you need help. Get it. Do not be afraid to ask for help. All mamas at some point need help from others. There is nothing wrong with that! You do not have to be superwoman and do it all on your own.
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mama... I think all of us have days like that. It doesn't mean you weren't cut out to be a mother, it just means you're normal.
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awwww kaela!!!! i wish you hadn't lost your cell phone you silly girl or i'd call you!!!!! once you do find it remember whenever you're feeling this way...WHENEVER!! call me! i'm always here (b/c i'm a crazy hermit i think ).

this does NOT by anymeans mean you're a bad mommy....it means your not part of leave it to beaver LOL. i tell ya i've had my moments where i've wanted to beat the snot out of my kids...i actually enjoy the baby stage best when they can't rip apart a house in 3.5 seconds lol. had moments where i've found them racing cars through... factor here....their own poo and wanted to rub their noses in it...again i didn't lol...just crazy mommy moments...moments where you think WTFH IS WRONG WITH YOU!?!?!?!?!?! then you stop and wonder WTFH IS WRONG WITH ME?!?!?!?!?! but alas....nothing is wrong w/us, kids should just all be locked in a padded room not really. but honestly how droll would my life be if i didn't find dustin standing in the kitch digging through the trash...or dustin sitting in the living room wearing a slice of bologna like a hat...or dustin and aj making their own peanut butter and sugar crackers while the ENTIRE bag of sugar is dumped on the floor at their feet....or aj drawing self portraits on the couch in pen.... yes i have a very entertaining life, and your's has just begun....

seriously, yes kids can be irritating...kids can be disgusting....but kids are a blast!!! they can take you from the largest amount of anger you think you will ever feel to hysterical laughter in about 3.5 seconds....who else can do that for you . being a mama is truly an adventure one will never forget...we have the simple joys in life, just remember that. anyhow i babbled and don't know if i even helped any

call me if you ever need anything, i'll be here for you!!!!!
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