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Old 05-20-2006, 11:28 PM   #1
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How Do You Cut Out Cursing?

Okay, so this isn't going to paint me in a very flattering light, but here goes.

I curse a lot. So does hubby. We always have. In our social circle, everyone has always dropped swear words in practically every sentence, and up until lately I haven't even realized how often they come out of my mouth without my even thinking first.

I've been pretty good about cutting back on it since becoming a mommy, because it's not exactly appropriate behavior, but I still find myself dropping big ones (and I'm not talking about damn or hell, I'm talking F-word and S-word and such!). And DS is at that age where he soaks up stuff like a sponge: just the past few days, I'll tell him something and he'll mimic it right back to me like a parrot, like tonight I was on the phone with DH and I said, "Say hi to Daddy," to DS and he says, "Hi Daddy!" for the first time!

I know about swear jars and stuff like that, but I don't think that would fly in our household. Do any of you ladies have good tricks for cutting out cursing? It's only a matter of time before I catch DS saying "sonofab****" or "motherf*****!"
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I don't know any tricks really. It's just a choice I guess? No help here sorry
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Old 05-20-2006, 11:51 PM   #3
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Re: How Do You Cut Out Cursing?

Wow, that seems so strange to me. I am shocked whenever I hear someone say the F word, it seems so harsh and unnatural. I guess like pp said, it's just a choice. You realize that those words do not make you look nice, aren't respectful of others, and teach your children naughty things. That's all I got, sorry.
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My husband or I, neither one of us curse. But my parents are a different story. When we had our kids, we told my parents that we knew we'd be spending alot of time with them and that we thought it best they practice better language. My oldest is almost 4 and she's probably only heard 2 or 3 cuss words from Nana and PawPaw since birth. I guess its just a choice you have to make...do it for your child, ya know? I wish I could be more help, but its kind of like the choice to smoke or to drink...you do whats right for your kids and whats best for them, even if it means giving up something you never thought you could.
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I'm right there with you mama.. .I've become more conscious when I want to use the f word and such to switch to friggin or freakin. When I use those words, it helps me to focus on how silly and uneducated I sound when using words like that. My oldest has started using the word "freakin" now and since I know what it *really* means, it calls me to be more mindful of what to say when I want to curse.

when I switched my mentality to really try to stop the cursing, I made it a point to listen to the people that do curse alot and the more I'd note the use of curse words, the more it wouldn't feel/sound right. And now it actually hurts my ears to hear people use curse words as adjectives all the time. I don't mind the occassional slip or a surprise, but every other word or as all adjectives doesn't sound right.

Give yourself some time and some credit... it's a force of tongue to conquer and you'll get there.

The first time you hear your little one say something really bad... AFTER you keel over, you'll REALLY stop cursing.

Quick story... I say "pissed off" all the time. My MIL calls me out on it all the time as she thinks it's cursing. She tells me "your little one will walk around saying pissed off all the time and how will you feel for that?" And just as I was about to respond, someone shows up at the door, she says "S***". So guess what my two year old was walking around saying almost immediately. I sat there with a smug look on my face and asked her "So, tell me, how DOES it feel to have a little one mimick cursing?" Oh that made my year...
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well I never was big on cursing. but once in huge while a S word will slip out its like only in a horrible situation or something. but still I feel so bad for saying it. even though dd has only heard me once. but I don't want her to heat those words. DH is more of a curser and he tries not to but he has a lot of slips and I need a way for him to stop b/c like I said I don't want our dd's hearing that kind of language. I think it is a choice but I also think there are slips, you just have to try and stop your self and think before you speak.
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Re: How Do You Cut Out Cursing?

I cursed a lot before kids, but after I had them it just felt wrong to me and ultimitely I stopped for the most part (although when I stub my toe or something I often say one of the "lighter" swear words). So I guess I agree with pps. It is so much a choice that you have to make.

Oh, when Marti started getting old enough to talk and we would catch ourselves swearing we would immmediately tell her that was a naughty word and that we shouldn't have said it. And here is the kicker and probably what broke us of our "habit" for good. She started telling us not to say those words. "That's a bad word, mommy." Maybe you could try this?
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I'm right there with you mama.. .I've become more conscious when I want to use the f word and such to switch to friggin or freakin. When I use those words, it helps me to focus on how silly and uneducated I sound when using words like that. My oldest has started using the word "freakin" now and since I know what it *really* means, it calls me to be more mindful of what to say when I want to curse.

when I switched my mentality to really try to stop the cursing, I made it a point to listen to the people that do curse alot and the more I'd note the use of curse words, the more it wouldn't feel/sound right. And now it actually hurts my ears to hear people use curse words as adjectives all the time. I don't mind the occassional slip or a surprise, but every other word or as all adjectives doesn't sound right.

Give yourself some time and some credit... it's a force of tongue to conquer and you'll get there.

The first time you hear your little one say something really bad... AFTER you keel over, you'll REALLY stop cursing.

Quick story... I say "pissed off" all the time. My MIL calls me out on it all the time as she thinks it's cursing. She tells me "your little one will walk around saying pissed off all the time and how will you feel for that?" And just as I was about to respond, someone shows up at the door, she says "S***". So guess what my two year old was walking around saying almost immediately. I sat there with a smug look on my face and asked her "So, tell me, how DOES it feel to have a little one mimick cursing?" Oh that made my year...
Ditto^^ the above...

To all the other posters who dont understand how its hard...it is if you were raised around it and that was the NORM of how you were talked to kwim?
If you were raised in a nice clean Christian home then I guess thats why its so horrible. Not saying IT ISNT because it is...and I fight with this as well.

Its just like any bad habit..you gotta fight it and nip it in the bud...its all about making up other words for those bad words if you have to.
For example( Heidi will laugh if she reads this)
When Chris was a lil toddler..Heidi and Aaron used to say SON OF A B----
and then one day in the car CHristian finished her sentence
SO instead they said NO CHris we say SON of a WOMAN or something to that nature..LOL so they and later I started putting that into my brain instead of the B word.

I still say Sh-T yes...mostly CRAP but the F word is one lil demon that comes out the most when Im under THE MOST stress imagineable..which aot of you know I HAVE BEEN .
so...trying to say freakin alot instead has helped. I do NOT take the Lords name in vain to me thats WORSE...so I say goodness or oh my word..sometime I do slip up on here and say OMG( but that COULD stand for goodness yk lol)

anyhow Im off my rambling reply
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