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Old 03-11-2010, 07:17 AM   #1
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DD is 6mo...I'm thinking I would like to TTC very soon that way they are very close in age! DH would rather have more time between them. Our plan, currently, is to only have 2 (as long as things go as planned!). Am I rushing things and does DH know best???

What is your opinion on how far apart kids should be spaced? What has been your experience? Has it worked very well or would you have done it differently had you known then what you know now? What are the pros and cons?
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Old 03-11-2010, 07:37 AM   #2
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Re: Opinions on how far to space kids apart...

my dd is 9 mo and we are going to "no longer prevent" once she turns a year - my hope is to have them somewhere around 2 yrs apart... I originally said we'd start when she turned 6mo... but wasn't quite ready to be preggo at that point; and now that she is just starting to sttn... I'm starting to think about it more!!
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Old 03-11-2010, 07:47 AM   #3
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I wanted our kids 18-24 mths apart b/c my sibs and I were 3 yrs apart and we were never able to play together. Less than 18mths would have been too hard on my body (pg and I don't get along). DH wanted more spacing (he has 5 yrs between his sib and him), but was willing. Our 2 are 22 mths apart and it's perfect. They are already starting to play together. DD also PLed right after DS was born, so I only had 2 in dipes for a very short time.
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There is 6 years between my oldest and my 2nd and although they get along pretty good I wouldn't recommend that much space. They are not always interested in the same things and it ends up making my oldest feel left out. There is 27 months between my 2nd and my 3rd which has worked our great. They play well together...although they do have there arguments. And when my 3rd was a baby my 2nd was old enough to be my "Big Boy" helper...instead of if he was younger...he may have still wanted to be "the baby".

We liked that space so much that I am pregnant again and as long as everything goes as planned there will be about 30 months between my 3rd and 4th. Good luck deciding....every family is different and there is no perfect time to have another baby...just go with what works for you and your spouse.
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There is 6 years between my oldest and my 2nd and although they get along pretty good I wouldn't recommend that much space. They are not always interested in the same things and it ends up making my oldest feel left out. There is 27 months between my 2nd and my 3rd which has worked our great. They play well together...although they do have there arguments. And when my 3rd was a baby my 2nd was old enough to be my "Big Boy" helper...instead of if he was younger...he may have still wanted to be "the baby".

We liked that space so much that I am pregnant again and as long as everything goes as planned there will be about 30 months between my 3rd and 4th. Good luck deciding....every family is different and there is no perfect time to have another baby...just go with what works for you and your spouse.
Same thing here-my DS and DD are almost 5 years apart. They don't have much in common-he frankly sees her mostly as a nuisance. And he was so used to being an only child that her birth/arrival was a bit traumatic for him. The reason we'd waited was financial. The one nice thing is we'll only be helping one kid through college at a time
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every family is different and there is no perfect time to have another baby...just go with what works for you and your spouse.
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Also, I guess maybe that would interfere with concieving if AF isn't back yet
LOL, we had no problem conceiving when AF wasn't back yet! Boy were we surprised

DH and I both agreed that when DD was around one year old, we'd stop "being careful". Anytime after that was ok with us for #2.

I wanted them close in age, (my sisters and I are around 2 years apart each) but I never thought we'd end up having them be 13 months apart. And that's perfectly ok with us. We're excited! I enjoy pregnancy (for the most part) and I'm willing to take on the challenge of two in diapers

Everyone has an opinion. Some people will say you are crazy, and then moms with children very close in age say they are the best of friends and to "have them all while you're young". Ha!

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We got pregnant with DD #2 when DD #1 was 6 months old. I LOVE the spacing between them. Oldest DD handled it so well and never had any jealousy issues. We got pregnant With DS when DD #2 was 1 and the spacing between them has been MUCH harder. Youngest DD is very jealous and hasn't handled the transition as well. Oldest DD has done well both time. So if I had to do it over again I would have less than 18 months or more than 3 years age gap. That in between stage is rough, at least for me lol.
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Re: Opinions on how far to space kids apart...

My first two are 13 months apart. That actually worked out really well. I was nervous about it, but they are the best of friends. It was difficult the first 3 months or so, but after that a breeze. My third is due in April, and there will be 2 yrs between him and my 2nd. There will be 3 yrs between him and my 1st. I hope they will all still play well together!
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Old 03-11-2010, 07:58 AM   #9
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Unfortunately, I have learned that planning anything when it comes to conceiving doesn't always work out. At least not for us. We wanted a houseful of children. It took us 4 years to conceive our son, and we started trying again as soon as the dr. gave us the go ahead. Still not pregnant, so we've given up on the dream of what we thought we wanted. We are loving every minute with our little boy, and we will be ecstatic if God gives us another child. I say hooray for anyone who is able to space their children how they desire. Best of luck in your decision!
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Old 03-11-2010, 08:03 AM   #10
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Re: Opinions on how far to space kids apart...

Well I only have one right now, and I'd like them to be about 2 years apart. If you are breastfeeding and you get pregnant, you may lose your milk supply, so I'd consider that before TTC as well.
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