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Old 07-28-2010, 11:40 AM   #11
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Re: tips for toddler undereating and pickiness?

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Your daughter has learned how to manipulate you. If there were texture issues or things she's never liked, I'd say different. But, she's learned that if she won't eat what you've made then you'll give her treats or make only what she likes.
OK. I'm not sure where on earth you saw that I give her treats or only make what she likes. I have never made her something new just because I thought she'd like it better than what was prepared. If she is going to eat at all it is what I've made. Yes, I've made her eat a predetermined amount of the set meal before being 'rewarded' with something else. Never junk. I work extremely hard to ensure that everything we have in our house is high quality nutrition... as packed full of nutrients as possible. She does need high fat foods but most don't exist. A high fat 'treat' for her might be some avocado. So if that's being manipulted then so be it. I feel that it's a parent's duty to set their child up for success. I do not see myself as being manipulated by trying to get her to eat well. She has always struggled with texture issues along with allergies but I know that this is not coming in to play with her recent statements about 'not liking this food'. Two days ago we had a talk about the diffference between 'not liking something' and 'not bieng hungry'. This has helped a lot. I still need to work harded than most parents to fill her body with nutrients, vitamins and fat because of her being underweight and struggling with several severe allergies. This does NOT constitute being manipulated. Sorry.

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Old 07-28-2010, 11:46 AM   #12
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What kind of "milk" does she drink? Almond milk does not have many calories,but could add scoops of hypoallergenic powder formula to it to fatten it up?

DS is a picky eater, and due to his heart condition, we need to keep calories in him. I spent a few days letting him eat when he wanted,then I started to plan meals around those times. SO the kids eat dinner at 5, instead of 6 or 7 with DH and I. He is not a big breakfast eater, but will eat a ton around lunch time. (11ish).

For dinner, I give him a choice of the sides that I make. He cannot stand meatloaf for example, but will eat peas and potatoes. I do not force the food, but I put a little of everything on his plate, he can eat or not eat and have seconds if he wants. If he wants a snack after dinner that is fine, as I do not keep junk food around the house. He usually wants fruit. You can also get coconut yogurt, but I am not sure where yet (friend told me about it.)

Also, try the book deceptively delicious for ways to get veggies/fruits into regular foods.

Finally, some kids are just small. As long as she is developing and following her own growth pattern (even below the line) she is more than likely fine.
So, sadly, her curve has dropped yet again. She grew taller but she has actually lost weight agaoin- she never ever stops moving so I can't say as I'm surprised. The ped. just wants to make sure she gets her fat up to feed her brain but overall isn't super upset or anything. I like your idea of using the hypoallergenic formula to 'fatten' things up. It is truly horrific tasting and she never took it even as a baby but nursed for a long time instead. But, I could 'hide' it!
Coconut yogourt is not available in Canada. I have no idea why not. BTW, it's available at Whole Foods in the US and I know that because whenver we know of anyone going to the US we ask them to bring us back a whole bunch because DD truly LOVES it! It is GREAT! I did try and make some homemade coconut yogourt but since we also can't get the dairy/soy free yogourt starter in Canada (again, no idea why not!), I just had to use a probiotic powder and I must say, it turned out kind of 'interestingly'... not exactly yummy.
I also love deceptively delicious... I should go through it again and include some of the things in my next meal plan! Thanks!
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Old 07-28-2010, 11:49 AM   #13
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Yes, I always have a morning snack (cheese & fruit) and an afternoon snack (PB on banana w/ raisins). Healthy snacks help to fill in the gaps. I also would recommend trying to get off the Almond Milk. We drink raw milk in our family and it doesn't bother my lactose intolerant belly at all. Many people are able to drink raw milk who can't handle dairy. Do some research on it if you're interested. Also, things like Kefir are very tasty to little ones...add some maple syrup and fruit to it and he will eat it up. Kefir is also very tolerant on lactose intolerant bellies and filled with probiotics. You can find it in the natural food section next to the milk.
Yes, I only WISH it were lactose intolerance... but it is a milk protein allergy severe enough that she must carry an epipen at all times and even reacts if she touches something that once held milk without being washed. It also means no goat, sheep, etc milk. Oh, and because of the severity of her allergies, we were told not to intro any high allergen foods such as nuts until full spectrum testing after age 3... so she has rice milk not almond (still no fat and low protein so not good)... but can and does enjoy lots of seeds and seed butters!
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Old 07-28-2010, 11:57 AM   #14
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Oh trust me- I've NEVER tried to restrict calories or fat with her! Cheese is out because of her allergies- cheese is by far the easiest high fat food out there otherwise. My challenge is just finding high fat/calorie foods out there that are safe for her!
So sorry, I didn't mean to imply that *you* were restricting calories or fat. I thought you had posted that snacks were only fruit and veggies, that was my mistake. You have my upmost sympathy. It is hard enough to try and pack the extra calories and fat in when you aren't dealing with food allergies.

Can you daughter have nut butters or sunflower or soy butter? Those are nice and calorie and fat rich and are pretty versatile. In addition to spreading on bread, I spread them on fruit and add to smoothies. I also stir olive oil or butter in anything I can, since you can't use butter, maybe another mild oil? My daughter is starting to enjoy dipping, so I've been using that as another way to get some fat and calories in her while still giving her the fruit and veggies that she loves.

ETA: I had my screen open for a while, so I see that you just posted about nuts and seeds.

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Old 07-28-2010, 01:27 PM   #15
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You can check if it's availiable in Canada, but there is a product out there called DuoCal. It's a tasteless powder that really can pack calories into a meal. They wanted to start DD on it, and we never did since her eating had picked up at that moment. Right now our sneakest trick since our food issues are mainly sensory is she has "ice cream" on days she doesn't eat well. I have an ice cream maker at home and put almond milk(you could sub rice milk) bananas and Shaklee meal replacer poweder in a blender and then freeze it. You have to let it thaw a bit before you can scoop it, but she loves it and it gets protien into her which is our struggle. Hopefully you can find something she loves. If you want more info on the powder PM me.
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Old 07-28-2010, 03:17 PM   #16
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Would she eat hummus, pasta tossed in olive oil, smoothies (made with rice milk/coconut milk, avacado, pureed navy beans and whatever fruit to sweeten them up-I swear you can't taste the beans-you can also puree chicken and add it-can't taste that either)? What about adding coconut milk to the rice milk to up the calories? We did that with DS when he was small.

Our meals go something like this
8:30 breakfast (if you get up before and want a little something, you can have some dry cereal)-a bread, fruit and milk are served-if I can get a protein in too, I do
10:00 snack (smoothie or handful of nuts, craisins, seeds, etc-something small)
11:30 lunch (protein, bread, veggie, fruit, milk)
3:30 snack (2 food groups-fruit, milk or bread, milk a lot of times)
6:30 dinner (protein, 2 veggies, fruit and starchy veggie or bread)
8:00 snack (treat-ice cream, apple cut up, popcorn, glazed nuts, etc.)

I serve a small portion of everything and my rule is that before you get seconds of something, you have to eat 2 things completely or have taken a decent bite of everything. The portion size is about 2 T. (so not an enormous amount to eat to begin with). If a child chooses not to eat, then that is their choice (no arguments, no cajoling), but I don't serve food again until the next time. I run a daycare, I don't have the luxury of changing schedules all the time-if it were just me at home with my kids, I might do something different. DS is my pickiest and he's not really picky, he just eats when he's hungry. Today he ate only a couple bites of a bagel and 1/2 a peach for breakfast, but had 2 pork tenderloins, 2 helpings of mashed potatoes and a roll for lunch. I don't expect him to eat much (if anything for dinner). GL mama, I know the worries that come with kiddos not gaining weight.
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Old 07-28-2010, 04:07 PM   #17
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avocados and tortilla chips. when DD wont eat anything else she will always eat this. I agree they will not starve themselves.
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