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Old 08-07-2010, 08:54 AM   #21
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I was just at a conference where they shared research that says when you touch/hold a baby you are creating new pathways in their brains helping them to develop. Touch is a powerful part of our development. A person can live without all of their senses except for the sense of touch. I have read that touch is one of the first senses to develop and the last to leave us in old age. There have been many research projects with animals and humans based on the idea that they cannot thrive without touch and it is true.

Keep holding your baby you are helping her to evelop in more ways than you will ever know.

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Old 08-07-2010, 09:15 AM   #22
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The more children I have the more I believe in attachment style parenting. I get crap from a lot of people for having an evolving parenting style... I feel like I am learning as they grow. Saying a baby can be spoiled is like saying a baby can be LAZY. Its ridiculous. And I have a low muscle tone baby that many have commented on as "lazy". I just smile and say "yep, that's definitely it, I hadn't thought of that... "

I smile and nod a lot these days... I don't have time to explain my kids to everyone...
In my opinion, your evolving parenting style is part of what makes you a good mama!! Every person knows that what works for one doesn't necessarily work for another; why would it be any different with kids and parenting styles?? It makes me sad when I see parents who force their kids to conform to one idea, rather than tailoring the idea to fit the kids. That, by the way, is one of the very first things I learned when pursuing my elementary ed/early childhood development degree 10 years ago!!
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Old 08-07-2010, 09:19 AM   #23
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Stuff for babies is really stuff for the parents - babies don't NEED a lot of stuff if you think about it... that is all for our connivence. I hate when people make a big deal out of babies needing stuff. We have a tiny house so I've been careful of what I buy and don't buy - I want more stuff as it would make our lives easier and it is for us, but I don't want it taking over the house - kids outgrow the clothing so fast its not worth buying tons and if I really want something, I just buy the next size up (on clearance of course). Babies don't want a lot.... parents do... maybe people should say the parents are spoiled. People always said I'd do a lot and I haven't - he has nicer stuff than us right now but he has the only almost done room - all I wanted was a nice crib, good car seats (safety first) and decent strollers (necessity).
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Spoiling is what happens when you put food up on a shelf and forget about it.
Holding your child and tending to their needs is called love.
So wouldn't that mean tucking your kid away somewhere and forgetting about her could spoil her!


Read your blog it was very good. My older children will follow me around and tug on my carrier if they see me wearing the ergo empty, or they will get the carrier and bring it to me, they must just hate it.
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children get spoiled with STUFF, not love.


DS was never a huge fan of his carrier, but when he was small we used to sit on the couch cuddling while he ate and slept for hours at a time. I loved it. The only problem was when my butt fell asleep.
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I've always said you cannot spoil a baby emotionally; only materially.
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children get spoiled with STUFF, not love.
Amen!
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