Tired of the questions...

[REFRESHING CHANGE]

I have a 35 weeker and she is still small for 6 month old (11.13) - everyone always commetns about how small she is or "wow, that is an INTERESTING" way to carry your baby (in my MOBY)" - my favorite was at church... boy it sure seems lazy to carry your baby like that.... REALLY?? do you not see the three other active children crawling up my butt?? LOL

Mostly though, I get the "wow she is tiny" and then that look like I am supposed to explain why she is that small. after 6 months I am kind of tired of it.

[ssand23]

I wish I had better news but the stupid questions never end. My 33 weeker is now 11 years old. She's very tall for her age at 5'9.

It sometimes comes up in conversation that she was a preemie. People see how tall she is & will ask "she was a preemie, are you sure?" Yes, it was 11 years ago but I do still remember when she was born. Mom's kind of have a knack for remembering that stuff.

[3rockstars]

I got that with my girls too. My middle daughter was a 34weeker and she came home on an apnea monitor around 5lbs even. I had an active duty military husband so I didn't have the luxury of having family to grocery shop for me to keep her home so we were out at wal-mart getting the rest of what we needed for her once she was about 3 weeks old(had been home a week). (ya know, since she still wasn't technically supposed to be born yet for another few weeks and I was utterly unprepared.) People would make the comments about her being so tiny and blah blah blah and see her apnea monitor and say, "oh what's wrong with her?" Ummmmmmmmm, really? We always responded with, "nothing. she's absolutely perfect." People would stammer to correct themselves and their phrasing of the question and I'd walk away leaving them stuttering. Honestly, I don't care if my kid is purple with pink polka dots. You don't ask a mother of a child attached to a monitor of any sort, "what's wrong with her?" That's horribly mean. You might see a proud new mom and adorable tiny babe and be curious but what you don't see is the exhaustion and fear and anxiety about taking your kid into public or the hours it took getting ready to go out or the raw bleeding spots on the baby's chest from sticky leads or the panic mom has when the monitor alarms for the 5th time that day when her tiny baby stops breathing. No one sees that or thinks of that when they ask that question. And honestly, it didn't bother me as much when little kids asked. They are just curious. We would explain it. But if you are an adult, you are capable of using a little more tact in your phrasing and you don't deserve an answer if you ask that way. Talk to me. Tell me, "your baby is just beautiful. congratulations. I see her monitor. Was she born early? Was she born unhealthy?" I don't have issue with curiosity. But asking me what's wrong with her is incredibly rude.

[irelandclover]

I am now at the point where I just grin and bear it. I think some people just can't help themselves and speak before they think.

[Chrijodo]

I have 34 week twins (who are now 12 weeks old) so preemies plus twins equals major stupidity from innocent people. I just smile nod and ignore.

[cmommy]

I get comments from people about my 34 weeker too. I had a little old man stop me at the store once and told me that the baby was going to suffocate. (I was using my Ergo and the baby was sleeping, his mouth was resting on the strap) When I showed him his nose was free he looked puzzled. :lol: