PL'ing question...

[jls~Kain~Drake]

Okay...Kain is ready in every way I'd think....he was even daytrained for like 2 weeks....then he just stopped...and now when i suggest he go to the potty, he refuses. He'll go on his own (on very rare occasions)...but if I try to help him, he won't. He'll sit there and just refuse. He'll tell me when he's going in his diaper, he takes his diaper off...he can tell me when his diaper needs changing....he knows when he's about to go....he can hold it....?? What can I do to gently encourage him? I've tried bribing...MIL swore by it...well, doesn't work on Kain. I should've known better than to take MIL's advice.

Anyway....so, any suggestions? Or just wait? It's frustrating because I know he CAN PL...as he's been day trained before...and he does really well when he wants to....the last couple days he's randomly worn big boy underwear....I definitely don't want to shame him....and I don't want to...ya know, punish him or force him....i definitely want to do it gently and just help him make the decision....but how do you do that?

[mommypooh]

Personally I would just stick him in underware until he is ready. Yeah you are going to have messes to clean up but just help him change and have him help you clean it up. He will eventually get sick of cleaning up the mess and not being able to play. Don't yell at him, don't shame him, but stop going back and forth between diapers and underware. He knows the difference and he knows that he can just be lazy. I would just put him in underware for the next couple of weeks and just mention it when you go and you need to try to go several times a day, like hourly. If he doesn't start going in like 2 weeks put him in diapers day and night non stop for 2 weeks or longer and then try agian.

[jls~Kain~Drake]

Thanks for reassuring me Dh isn't on board with that, however....I'm the one home with the kids 24/7...so it's my problem anyway

[SandyG]

good advice!! david finally is getting it at 3, gotta thought remind him as he will forget sometimes and pee on himself. i use to bribe him with M&Ms and those stinkers didnt help . so i quit and just take him every hour. sometimes he refused others he did go. GL