What would you do?

[S4r4h]

My stepmom watches my DD one afternoon a week. We're doing BLW and it's going sooo well, but my SM can't seem to wrap her head around what we're doing.

For instance:
I brought a banana for Charlie to nibble on and SM mashed up HALF of it and spoon fed it to her. Messed up her BM's for a week. We talked about it and I explained how BLW works but she can't bring herself to be "wasteful" with food (depression era parents, you know).

Yesterday I brought roasted carrots, cooked apple slices, and some watermelon. She apparently mashed up the carrots and apples and spooned it (even though I made it clear that all she had to do was put it on her tray) and didn't bother with the watermelon bc Charlie "wasn't eating enough of it."

These are just examples of what happens every week. Growing up, we were required to eat passed full as to not be wasteful and I'm determined not to train my children to over-eat.

My question is:
Would you stop bringing food altogether? "Under one, just for fun" after all ...
Or would you let her keep mashing stuff up since it's just one meal a week?
Or would you make an issue out of it and continue to drive the point home (at risk of making a step parent relationship even more awkward)?

[bookworm]

If it's just one meal a week, I think I'd let it go. If she were watching him every day, I would say it would be different.

[EmilytheStrange]

I'm with Bookworm.

also, I'd invite grandma over for dinner and let her see it in action.

[hpfgirl]

Just send puffies. She can't spoon feed those. My MIL brings purees for my 15-month-old because I don't keep any in the house. It's a little annoying, but I dont' think it really harms anything.

[FancyCloth]

ehh, I wouldnt worry...

I used to get annoyed about what the grandparents did but in the end they love them and mean no harm.
once a week..no biggie..your influence will far outweigh step moms..

maybe step mom likes the bonding

[thaisa47]

Let it go. And I like the suggestion of having her over for a meal to see it in action. That is what cemented the concept of BLW for my MIL.

[cdwelton]

I can't wait til I have to go through this with my mom not! She will do the same thing. I think the idea of having her over for dinner is great! Other than that it is just one meal, and she is trying to do what she thinks is best. Maybe next time you could just not bring any food over and tell her to just give the babe a few bites of what she is having?