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Old 01-30-2011, 11:39 AM   #21
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We have never talked about reversing it he might think I was crazy.
You might be surprised...it took me a year to get up the nerve to tell my dh I regretted his vasectomy and wanted another baby (partially just didn't want to express those feelings out loud). He shocked me by telling me he felt the same way!

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Old 01-30-2011, 11:56 AM   #22
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You might be surprised...it took me a year to get up the nerve to tell my dh I regretted his vasectomy and wanted another baby (partially just didn't want to express those feelings out loud). He shocked me by telling me he felt the same way!
Yeah that is me I don't want to acknowledge it and be shot down. I don't know if I could handle laying my feelings out there like that and then be shot down....yet holding it in is miserable too.

We have 6 kids and everyone already thinks we are nuts. Irritates me really afterall we make good money and even with a 7th would not qualify for Gov money (nothing meant rudely to anyone who does get any help). We do not need or depend on anyone else to care for our kids. I am a stay at home mom, DH is retired military who is disabled, but also runs a bail bonding company. We take care of ourselves and our kids and do not need to rely on family or friends because our task is too overwhelming....

I hope no one takes offense by that I really don't mean anything.
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Old 01-30-2011, 03:00 PM   #23
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I had my tubes tied when I had our 3rd. I was really done after the 2nd, but the 3rd came anyway. After much thought and discussion with DH and myself I choose to have them tied. I decided that even if we broke up *I* was done having children. The only children that I will have now are ones that we may possibly foster/adopt. Sure, there are days that I regret it, but that only lasts about 5 minutes until one of my boys is out to kill the other one.
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Old 03-16-2011, 10:11 PM   #24
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Re: Tube tying remorse...

my dd is 4 months old. I had the new tube tied that is not reversable. i was so mad cause i changed my mind on the delivery table. as i called out to the dr,m did you tie my tubes yet? he was like yup just sewing you back up. in his office i asked him to ask me one more time before he did it. anyway i can't reverse it. and i really want another with my dd's dad. its his first.
lesson learned, do not ask a woman in her 3rd trimester to get her tubes tied.
we don't have money to put out to get ivf. and we wouldn't beable to adopt. unless it was a private one.

I think this is why I have ppd. I feel old. empty.
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Old 03-17-2011, 07:22 AM   #25
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HUGS, so sorry mama.

Dp and I actually just had this conversation again yesterday, I let him know that when he is done having kids he can get it done as I will NEVER do anything permanant. He thought I was being unreasonable but seeing stories like this makes me more confident with my decision.
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Old 03-17-2011, 07:31 AM   #26
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This is why I won't do anything permanent on my part at this time. I have no idea where I will be in 5 years and although I don't think I want anymore children, that can change in a few years.
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Old 03-17-2011, 08:05 AM   #27
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Old 03-17-2011, 08:16 AM   #28
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deciding something major like this should NEVER be done during or immediately following delivery.
I said I was done with my last pregnancy and then about 3 months after I wanted my 6th. when forget all the bad, you find that happy place and want to do it again.
so, even tho I thought about typing mine, I am glad I didn't. heck maybe when I am 40 I will have another.

so as far as IVF, in my area its $15,000. mostly because of all the meds.

I hope you find a good solution to your motherly desires
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Old 03-17-2011, 08:23 AM   #29
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I agree, I'd look into reversal more. As far as I know, none of the procedures are completely non-reversible. Do you know what type you had done? Depending on what you had done and the expertise of the doctor trying to undo it, you could have very good chances of it working!

I agree with talking to a specialist before you decide to go through IVF. IVF is expensive (over $20k a cycle here) and well...sucks...lol. You have to be on hormones that for many, cause very bleh side effects. I've done IVF once (for a surrogacy) and by the time I was able to get off the hormones, I was crying out of happiness. They made me feel so sick all the time and I was soooo grouchy. It was like bad PMS ALL THE TIME. I mean, I'd totally do it again if it were my only option, but I'd definitely try to get the reversal first.
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Old 09-02-2011, 01:42 AM   #30
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I looked into it. one tube maybe able to be made by my two half tubes. its between 5000 and 10000. I am in canada. I do have a friend who got it covered because they thought it might help her with her cycles. and the horrable pms.
I think dp want another one too.......
but in a few years I ll look into it again. I am having some health stuff right now, but I feel better now that I have looked into it, and talked about how i have been feeling
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