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Old 12-27-2011, 01:15 PM   #11
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So I need some other mama thoughts about our situation. Baby #6 is on the way, we have 4 living and 1 stillbirth. My mother is so against us having more kiddos, she kept saying that I was lucky moses was born ok since my pregnancy before him ended in a stillbirth. Since 3/10 she always reminds me we shouldnt have anymore. I know she just doesnt want to worry, I also know that its our choice how many kids we have, since we are the ones to pay for them. I havent told her yet and Im actually afraid. Any ideas on how to tell her. We live very close,shes over a few times a week, we do sunday dinner at her house, so I cant hide it forever. The baby is due around her birthday.

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Old 12-27-2011, 01:29 PM   #12
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Yay! It took a little while to find baby, and it was hiding under my old csection..lol but heartbeat was in the 140's/150's(kept changing)

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So I need some other mama thoughts about our situation. Baby #6 is on the way, we have 4 living and 1 stillbirth. My mother is so against us having more kiddos, she kept saying that I was lucky moses was born ok since my pregnancy before him ended in a stillbirth. Since 3/10 she always reminds me we shouldnt have anymore. I know she just doesnt want to worry, I also know that its our choice how many kids we have, since we are the ones to pay for them. I havent told her yet and Im actually afraid. Any ideas on how to tell her. We live very close,shes over a few times a week, we do sunday dinner at her house, so I cant hide it forever. The baby is due around her birthday.
I don't have any words of advice, but wanted to offer
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Old 12-27-2011, 01:31 PM   #13
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So I need some other mama thoughts about our situation. Baby #6 is on the way, we have 4 living and 1 stillbirth. My mother is so against us having more kiddos, she kept saying that I was lucky moses was born ok since my pregnancy before him ended in a stillbirth. Since 3/10 she always reminds me we shouldnt have anymore. I know she just doesnt want to worry, I also know that its our choice how many kids we have, since we are the ones to pay for them. I havent told her yet and Im actually afraid. Any ideas on how to tell her. We live very close,shes over a few times a week, we do sunday dinner at her house, so I cant hide it forever. The baby is due around her birthday.
That's so hard..but she is truly NOT thinking about you and your family, only her own selfish reasons. And having a stillbirth obviously has no bearing on future pregnancies or births. When you tell her just preface it will "no negative talk" .. if you aren't happy mom, don't say so just smile and act happy! I have no experience except my own parents were discouraging us from #2 so soon after #1 but who cares not their children to raise!
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Old 12-27-2011, 01:55 PM   #14
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I don't expect to feel movement until 18 wks. This is my first. I'm impressed that you're feeling something this early.

As for the concerns from your mom, I imagine she doesn't want to think about losing another grandchild and isn't expressing that concern in a better way. Or maybe she worries about losing you of something worse happens? It's not her choice how many kids you have but I can see why there might be other reasons why she didn't want you to have more kids after the stillborn child. Hopefully when you tell her she can at least show some happiness for you.
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So I need some other mama thoughts about our situation. Baby #6 is on the way, we have 4 living and 1 stillbirth. My mother is so against us having more kiddos, she kept saying that I was lucky moses was born ok since my pregnancy before him ended in a stillbirth. Since 3/10 she always reminds me we shouldnt have anymore. I know she just doesnt want to worry, I also know that its our choice how many kids we have, since we are the ones to pay for them. I havent told her yet and Im actually afraid. Any ideas on how to tell her. We live very close,shes over a few times a week, we do sunday dinner at her house, so I cant hide it forever. The baby is due around her birthday.
about Keith first off. I can't imagine...

But about your mom. I'm sure shes just filled with fear and life is just easier avoiding than dealing. I'd just say..."we're very excited because we have some changes coming. i know not everyone is going to be excited, and we understand that. But to us, this is a huge positive and we're not going to accept any negative talk on the matter. We can't wait to have our next little one, come July...and we're hoping you'll be supportive and encouraging...because this is what we want and we're trusting that all will go as smoothly as with Moses and our others"

Just be honest and direct. Preface with wanting only positive feedback, because its already going to happen and negative comments wont do anything but frustrate and discourage you.

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I have not enjoyed being pregnant this time so far. I feel bad as I have always loved being pregnant. But I feel like crap with horrible MS. I seem to hate all food but I'm really hungry. I always have a headache. Just stinks. Also, I am a little over 13 weeks and not feeling the baby. Has me worried because I felt DS 2 & 3 at 11 weeks on a regular basis. I have thought I felt this baby a few times but nothing for sure and nothing regular. I know it seems silly to be worried with this at 13 weeks but I am. I hope all is okay. Jusy thought with #4 I would feel it early again.

Would love to buy a doppler but we are too tight on $. Plus I would prob. just frak myself out over that too.
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I have not enjoyed being pregnant this time so far. I feel bad as I have always loved being pregnant. But I feel like crap with horrible MS. I seem to hate all food but I'm really hungry. I always have a headache. Just stinks. Also, I am a little over 13 weeks and not feeling the baby. Has me worried because I felt DS 2 & 3 at 11 weeks on a regular basis. I have thought I felt this baby a few times but nothing for sure and nothing regular. I know it seems silly to be worried with this at 13 weeks but I am. I hope all is okay. Jusy thought with #4 I would feel it early again.

Would love to buy a doppler but we are too tight on $. Plus I would prob. just frak myself out over that too.
Sounds like girl symptoms to me I felt that way with my 4 th a girl, and feel that way too and think this one must be a girl too.
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I have not enjoyed being pregnant this time so far. I feel bad as I have always loved being pregnant. But I feel like crap with horrible MS. I seem to hate all food but I'm really hungry. I always have a headache. Just stinks. Also, I am a little over 13 weeks and not feeling the baby. Has me worried because I felt DS 2 & 3 at 11 weeks on a regular basis. I have thought I felt this baby a few times but nothing for sure and nothing regular. I know it seems silly to be worried with this at 13 weeks but I am. I hope all is okay. Jusy thought with #4 I would feel it early again.
That was me the first time around (and the baby was a girl!). I'm enjoying it much more this time around. Must be a boy, I'm thinking.

I'm sorry things are so rough for you!
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I have not enjoyed being pregnant this time so far. I feel bad as I have always loved being pregnant. But I feel like crap with horrible MS. I seem to hate all food but I'm really hungry. I always have a headache. Just stinks. Also, I am a little over 13 weeks and not feeling the baby. Has me worried because I felt DS 2 & 3 at 11 weeks on a regular basis. I have thought I felt this baby a few times but nothing for sure and nothing regular. I know it seems silly to be worried with this at 13 weeks but I am. I hope all is okay. Jusy thought with #4 I would feel it early again.

Ummm, did I write this post?!?! Except for the part about feeling the other babies move earlier (they've all been around 14-15 weeks). Although MS has finally let up a bit, I totally still have this love/hate relationship with food. I don't feel like eating, but I'm starving, but even when I get myself to eat, I fill up so quickly. I got occasional headaches with the others, but it is an every day thing this time around... and it makes me crabby!!! This is my #4,too, and you'd think my body would have things figured out by now! I have another appointment the end of next week, and I'm starting to wish that I had decided to do the early screening thing just so that I could see this baby and have some peace of mind that everything is "normal" even though it all seems so different!
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Sounds like girl symptoms to me I felt that way with my 4 th a girl, and feel that way too and think this one must be a girl too.
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That was me the first time around (and the baby was a girl!). I'm enjoying it much more this time around. Must be a boy, I'm thinking.

I'm sorry things are so rough for you!
Thanks ladies. A girl would be fun. Funny thing is that for the first time ever, I have a girl vibe. Everytime I think of and picture the baby, I think girl. Time will tell.

I was actually really sick with my boys too but it was just different. Like with them I would be fine, get really sick and throw up, then I was fine and dandy again. But that went on the whole pregnancy. This time I always feel nauseous. I don't throw up often at all but even when I do it doesn't make me feel better. Like there is zero relief! I would normally take zofran but it doesn't work well with the prometrium I have to take. I am hoping that this doesn't last the rest of the pregnancy!
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