Diaper Swappers

JadeScarlet · 04-30-2012, 05:40 PM

My birth experience was wonderful, but I did a lot of research before, and made sure that I had the right people with me. I had a homebirth with a wonderful midwife, but I live in a community where a scheduled c-section is considered normal.

I don't want to sound anti-c-section or anti-epidural because I'm not. c-section has its place and sometimes it is inevitable and can save the lives of babies and mothers. No one has to be a pain martyr and several people I know loved their epidurals. But I don't like how some doctors will just jump to that solution without considering the mother. It can make a huge postpartum difference.

Labor produces lots of natural hormones. After my home birth, I felt like I was high for days. I was relaxed, delighted, floating on a cloud of pure bliss, all thanks to my body's natural production of pitocin and oxytocin and all of the others. I also managed to forget most of labor. While I remember that I was in pain, I can't remember the pain.

If I had not been careful to choose the right person to be delivering my baby, I might not have had the wonderful experience that I got.

Computermama · 04-30-2012, 09:08 PM

While my first was not a birth experience I'm happy with and felt bullied, I did actually consent to everything, right down to the ridiculous attempt to break my water when my cervix was still closed. I wouldn't ever recommend him as an OB, but he never violated my rights.

Second experience was awesome. They checked and double checked to make sure I was ok with things, especially when they knew what I had chosen was not in my original plan. The epidural they had three nurses each check with me because I had been pretty insistent that I didn't want it. The anesthetist also made very sure to go over everything, and then took a great deal of time setting me up to be as comfortable as possible while he worked. The only proceedure that I was surprised by was stitching me up, but apparently I was bleeding pretty heavily, so they wanted to get in there. They may have said something too, but things were such chaos right then that I missed it.

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bigmamakelsey · 05-01-2012, 08:56 AM

No, I had a great birth.

ananemone · 05-16-2012, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Holly dolly

Mine was not necessarily without my consent...but I was made to believe with my first that a few things "needed" to happen and they weren't necessary at all. Had I been more informed they wouldn't have been able to talk mr into it.

Yes, this.

joyous · 05-17-2012, 12:47 AM

I was given misoprostol (or Cytotec), without my knowledge. I was told I was being given Cervadil, which they did do as well. I even told them I didn't want misoprostol. I found out months later when I requested my chart be sent to me for billing purposes.

In a way, I do feel violated. That was a drug I did not want. I know how dangerous it is, and that it isn't even intended for inductions or use in labor. I had severe uterine cramping for 8 hours, no brea in pain, and now I understand why it was so bad.

Other than that though, my hospital was very respectful of my wishes.

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04-30-2012, 05:40 PM	#41
JadeScarlet Registered Users Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 259 Ratings: 2 Feedback: 100%	Re: A question about your birth experiences My birth experience was wonderful, but I did a lot of research before, and made sure that I had the right people with me. I had a homebirth with a wonderful midwife, but I live in a community where a scheduled c-section is considered normal. I don't want to sound anti-c-section or anti-epidural because I'm not. c-section has its place and sometimes it is inevitable and can save the lives of babies and mothers. No one has to be a pain martyr and several people I know loved their epidurals. But I don't like how some doctors will just jump to that solution without considering the mother. It can make a huge postpartum difference. Labor produces lots of natural hormones. After my home birth, I felt like I was high for days. I was relaxed, delighted, floating on a cloud of pure bliss, all thanks to my body's natural production of pitocin and oxytocin and all of the others. I also managed to forget most of labor. While I remember that I was in pain, I can't remember the pain. If I had not been careful to choose the right person to be delivering my baby, I might not have had the wonderful experience that I got. __________________ DS born 8-15-2011!

04-30-2012, 09:08 PM	#42
Computermama Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 12,850 Ratings: 30 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	While my first was not a birth experience I'm happy with and felt bullied, I did actually consent to everything, right down to the ridiculous attempt to break my water when my cervix was still closed. I wouldn't ever recommend him as an OB, but he never violated my rights. Second experience was awesome. They checked and double checked to make sure I was ok with things, especially when they knew what I had chosen was not in my original plan. The epidural they had three nurses each check with me because I had been pretty insistent that I didn't want it. The anesthetist also made very sure to go over everything, and then took a great deal of time setting me up to be as comfortable as possible while he worked. The only proceedure that I was surprised by was stitching me up, but apparently I was bleeding pretty heavily, so they wanted to get in there. They may have said something too, but things were such chaos right then that I missed it. Sent from my iPod touch using DS Forum __________________ Becca, Wife to B (10/31/09!) and busy WOHM (on mat leave) to E (10/17/07). and C (04/26/12) I've earned over $450 in gift cards by searching with Swagbucks! Probably nak or fighting autocorrect on my iPod, excuse the typos!

05-01-2012, 08:56 AM	#43
bigmamakelsey Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Montana Posts: 9,516 Ratings: 159 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: A question about your birth experiences No, I had a great birth. __________________ K&K My little firecracker Lennon 10.09, crying before he fully emerged and My little sweetheart Indi 6.12, born smiling

05-17-2012, 12:47 AM	#45
joyous Registered Users Formerly: erika375 Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Southern California Posts: 1,810 Ratings: 24 Feedback: 100%	I was given misoprostol (or Cytotec), without my knowledge. I was told I was being given Cervadil, which they did do as well. I even told them I didn't want misoprostol. I found out months later when I requested my chart be sent to me for billing purposes. In a way, I do feel violated. That was a drug I did not want. I know how dangerous it is, and that it isn't even intended for inductions or use in labor. I had severe uterine cramping for 8 hours, no brea in pain, and now I understand why it was so bad. Other than that though, my hospital was very respectful of my wishes. Sent from my iPhone using DS Forum __________________ Single mama to my sweet D. Taking life one day at a time.