Re: anyone else with a failed VBAC?
I'm so sorry you feel cheated mama. But don't feel bad because you had 2 C-sections. You DID bring your babies safely into this world, even if it wasn't the 'natural' way. I certainly understand your feelings of unfairness. We lost DD1's identical twin at 31 weeks and had an emergency C-section to save DD1. I look around at the all women who smoked and drank and had no prenatal care during pregnancy, and never took care of themselves, and successfully carried 2 babies to term and I just don't understand why my baby was taken from me. I did everything I was supposed to do, and it wasn't easy. I don't know what to say to that feeling of unfairness, because I'm not over it, either.
But I will say that you still birthed your babies! You carried two beautiful, healthy children in your body until they were ready to join the world, and there was nothing you did wrong, sometimes things just don't work out the way we want them to.