Kind of discouraged. Family being to over protective.

[MyM&W]

I've always been on the smaller side, but always felt the need to be kinda thin. I started using myfitnesspal in the middle of Jan. I've lost 12.5lbs since then, which puts me at 132.5. Which is a normal body weight for my height of 5'3". I was at my cousins graduation party the other day, I didn't eat because my hubby and I had a huge lunch around 12:30 that day and everyone was eating and it was only 3:30. I did eat some veggie sticks and dip and a few handfuls of chips, but my grandmother and one of my aunts approached me and told me that I shouldn't lose anymore, its bad for my heart, they would be upset if something happened to me...I can understand what they are saying, I really can, but its not like I'm 102lbs. Then I would be worried to. I have a personal goal of 125lbs...that's what I was before I got pregnant with my son (whos now 2.5)
My mom was telling me that when she visits my grams house I get brought up a lot in conversations. I have 7 aunts and they all keep saying they don't know why I want to lose more weight...I dunno I just do! I have a lot of toning left to do, especially in my thighs and my hip stomach area.

I just feel so discouraged. I've seen my doctor, she said everything is fine with me, I'm overall healthy and she didn't say anything when I told her my weight loss goal. How can I assure my family that I'm fine? Most of my family is on the heavier side, so I dunno if that's why...I take after my dad...who was tiny, he wore a size 8 boot and wore like a size 28 pants and was only about 5'4-5'5. When he passed away he was only 135lbs. (he had cancer) Anyway, I feel fantastic and that makes me a happy person!! I'm fit and playing basketball almost every night. I can run a mile at 6mph and I don't need to stop, which I couldn't do back in March!!

[mebl0901]

I think you should disregard what they have to say. It sounds like you have a healthy attitude about your body and weight and are just trying to better yourself. I think I saw pics of you in another thread and you look great. You looked fine before and look even better now. I think alot of times people get intimidated when someone chooses not to eat (or eat less) in certain settings - others either have their feelings hurts or are jealous that you have more self control. I only say that because I know what I've thought when I've seen people decline yummy party food and I'm the one stuffing my face. And since you say most of your family is heavy, they are probably jealous.

Why do they think you are going to die and are worried about your heart? That seems strange to me. Especially since you are at a healthy weight for your height, like you say. I think if I were you, I'd be ticked.

[keonli]

I hope I'm not being too intrusive, but can I ask if the rest of your family, especially the ones making these comments, are overweight?

I'm currently not attempting to lose weight, but when I was 130 at 5'1" and dropped 15 lbs in a healthy manner, my slightly overweight mother and my overweight co workers all became alarmed. It seems like seeing someone who was fluffy suddenly become healthy and happier is almost a threat? Or in a roundabout way they become insecure because they haven't been able to lose the weight themselves. Around the time I lost the weight, my mother would purposely/secretly fry foods and tempt me and my co workers scheduled more lunch meetings where I would have no choice but to eat the stuff I was trying not to eat.

You can also tone without losing weight, which I don't think people seem to realize. There's also a lot of misinformation on what is healthy. For example, my mom thinks chocolate falls into the dairy group and isn't candy. Or that Splenda is healthier than other sugars.

I think you should keep doing what you are doing because your doctors aren't concerned and you seem to be healthy and happy.

[MyM&W]

Yes I mentioned most of them are overweight, but I don't get the jealous vibe at all. I'm not sure what it is. I mean I can see a couple of them might be, but the one that approached me about the heart issue is my favorite aunt and shes always been the nicest/coolest.
I'm not sure how it would affect my heart, I mean like I said if I was freaking TINY like 100ish pounds it probably could somehow, but a healthy weight for me is anywhere from 112lbs to 142lbs. lol. I'm right smack dab in the middle, actually a little closer to the 142 side. So yeah. I feel GREAT. I just wish I could get them to stop freaking out, I don't even want to post on fb about exercising or keep my weight loss friends on fb updated with weight loss pics