Diaper Swappers

erkelly · 05-27-2012, 09:42 PM

I am due in July and my 23 month old has never ever slept a night without me. We cosleep, just us. My husband sleeps separate from us. Do any of you have suggestions on how to deliver in the hospital (where they will keep me 2 days, even if things go well) while he has to sleep with me? He can't sleep in bed with my husband, it has to be me. My mom will be here watching him (as long as I'm not early), but I really don't see him sleeping in bed with her while I'm at the hospital. Even if my hospital would allow him to stay there and sleep with me, I don't see it working out in a hospital bed with a newborns nursing schedule!

crunchymom2b · 05-28-2012, 05:55 AM

Great question- DS still sleeps with DF and I. We're gonna be going a trial run at his grandparents or my aunt's, where he has at least spent the night with me. He's fallen asleep without me there or without DF so I hope he'll do okay as long as someone is with him. I can't wait to hear suggestions!

Kristi26 · 05-28-2012, 06:44 AM

I would start working on getting him comfortable with sleeping with your DH now so that it's not shocking and upsetting when it happens in July.

SaraElise · 05-28-2012, 06:48 AM

I would start working with him now to sleep with someone else so that when the time comes you are not worried about if he is sleeping or not and can focus on the new baby for a little bit.

We cosleep, but when there is going to be another baby (or when it's just getting too uncomfortable for us all, baby/toddler included!) we start the transition to their own room.

I know many people who co sleep with more than one child just fine, so there is no reason you can't go back to that after you come home again, but start talking with him now about what will happen, and the great things about bringing home a new baby for him so that the sleeping with someone else won't seem so bad if he is doing it for the reward of a new sibling.

Right now we are TTC #4, and my youngest is 16 months and loves to sleep with me. But she naps on her own and can sleep at least part of the night without me. She is not sleeping through the night yet, but will accept my husband going in to sleep with her from time to time, even if that's not what she really wants. It's been a slow process of weaning her off of first needing to nurse all night, then needing to touch me all night, now needing to have me to go back to sleep every time she wakes up.

HeatherlovesCDs · 05-28-2012, 11:36 AM

Yeah, I'd start now. But, ultimately, it's just life. He is going to have to sleep away from you those 2 nights. He may not sleep well, but it will have to happen regardless since there really isn't another option. I would try not to worry much about it since you can't do a lot about it. However, I would work on it before hand too.

BTW - this is coming from a non-cosleeping, non-nurse-to-sleep, don't mind leaving my babies with family for appts and outings if I need to and am okay with overnights if needed or wanted from about a year on. (they may still be nursing, but don't have to for a day if I'm gone.) So, take what I say from that point of view.

turtledance · 05-28-2012, 05:29 PM

My son was like this when I was pregnant with my dd. Before she was born, my DH started putting ds down at night so the he could fall asleep with someone besides me. When DD was born and I was in the hospital, DS stayed with my parents and my mom slept with him. He had never spent a night not sleeping with me up until that point. He did completely fine! I was worried about it, but there wasn't much I could do so I just hoped for the best. Hopefully things will go that easily for you as well.

05-27-2012, 09:42 PM	#1
erkelly Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Decatur, AL Posts: 1,871 Ratings: 65 Feedback: 100%	Hospital birth + cosleeping toddler? I am due in July and my 23 month old has never ever slept a night without me. We cosleep, just us. My husband sleeps separate from us. Do any of you have suggestions on how to deliver in the hospital (where they will keep me 2 days, even if things go well) while he has to sleep with me? He can't sleep in bed with my husband, it has to be me. My mom will be here watching him (as long as I'm not early), but I really don't see him sleeping in bed with her while I'm at the hospital. Even if my hospital would allow him to stay there and sleep with me, I don't see it working out in a hospital bed with a newborns nursing schedule! __________________ Emily, wife to my army man Teddy, loving mother to Cole Rylan 6/26/2010 and new mama to Ainsley Willow 7/17/2012. ISO/IHA ListBG/HH/gDiaper/Grovia/SBish/RSD/Kissa's* NEW Ergo/Moby d WrapMaternityJJB PackaBeMy eBay*

05-28-2012, 05:55 AM	#2
crunchymom2b Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Springfield, MA Posts: 5,372 Ratings: 176 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Hospital birth + cosleeping toddler? Great question- DS still sleeps with DF and I. We're gonna be going a trial run at his grandparents or my aunt's, where he has at least spent the night with me. He's fallen asleep without me there or without DF so I hope he'll do okay as long as someone is with him. I can't wait to hear suggestions! __________________ Alycia + Tom = 2 Labor Day babies! Tommy (9/09) + Vinny (9/12) I'm a cop lovin', CDing, BFing & EPing, Co-Sleeping, & ERFing kinda mama! After 8months of EPing with DS1 and 2months EPing with DS2 my little squish is finally EBF!!!! Persistance pays off!

05-28-2012, 06:44 AM	#3
Kristi26 Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 2,291 Ratings: 23 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Hospital birth + cosleeping toddler? I would start working on getting him comfortable with sleeping with your DH now so that it's not shocking and upsetting when it happens in July. __________________ -Kristi,wife(5/02), , HSing, CDing,SAHM to Andrew(1/00), Lukas(2/03),Lily (1/06),and Ian (5/09) !Sweet Gwen, stillborn, 12/26/11, angel baby 7/08 Free History plans and more here: http://themommywriter.blogspot.com/

05-28-2012, 11:36 AM	#5
HeatherlovesCDs Registered Users Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 8,823 Ratings: 98 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Hospital birth + cosleeping toddler? Yeah, I'd start now. But, ultimately, it's just life. He is going to have to sleep away from you those 2 nights. He may not sleep well, but it will have to happen regardless since there really isn't another option. I would try not to worry much about it since you can't do a lot about it. However, I would work on it before hand too. BTW - this is coming from a non-cosleeping, non-nurse-to-sleep, don't mind leaving my babies with family for appts and outings if I need to and am okay with overnights if needed or wanted from about a year on. (they may still be nursing, but don't have to for a day if I'm gone.) So, take what I say from that point of view. __________________ Heather SAHM to 6 who are 7 and under, including 2 sets of twins and our last little miracle, a surviving identical twin, born Oct 2012!

05-28-2012, 05:29 PM	#6
turtledance Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,637 Ratings: 6 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	My son was like this when I was pregnant with my dd. Before she was born, my DH started putting ds down at night so the he could fall asleep with someone besides me. When DD was born and I was in the hospital, DS stayed with my parents and my mom slept with him. He had never spent a night not sleeping with me up until that point. He did completely fine! I was worried about it, but there wasn't much I could do so I just hoped for the best. Hopefully things will go that easily for you as well. __________________ Momma to my crazy little Snuggle Muttin (6-8-07) and my sweet Cuddle Bug (2-13-10)